Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
I understand that this is definitely a tough choice for you, and I can understand your hesitation
I would like to ask a few questions to get some more information, so I can give you the best answer possible.
With your girlfriend, you mentioned that you feel you are going nowhere, why is this? Also why are you currently in a long distance relationship and is there any hope in the near future that you two will be physically living closer together to bridge the distance gap?
Also this girl of your dreams that you mentioned, are you in love with her? How long have you known her? And why has she opened up recently about wanting to be in a relationship with you?
Well it seems like for your girlfriend and yourself to have a successful relationship, someone will have to make a sacrifice and it seems logically it would be her, but she does not seem willing to do that. But right now there is a girl that you have known for such a long time and have remained great friends for a long time as well, who is willing to start a relationship with you to see because she sees potential in a future with you
I think because you feel that the relationship with your girlfriend has stagnated and a long distance relationship is tough for any couple, it would be worth exploring a relationship with this other girl that you have had strong feelings for, even while dating your girlfriend. It seems like dating the girl of your dreams can be considered a riskier decision because you do not know what the future holds for you two. But because you have such strong feelings for her, I think it would be worth taking a chance on it or you may have feelings of regret and wondering "what could have been."
Also though, you can try to talk to your girlfriend and explain to her that you feel that you two have been drifting apart and not connecting and try to come up with ways to fix that since you do love her as you stated. If she is not willing to move down to Houston with you to help maintain the relationship or at least improve the relationship, then I think breaking up with her would be wise since you no longer feel that connection with her and you can try dating this other girl that you have strong feelings for.
Unfortunately sometimes relationships stop working, even if you are in love, because the timing is not right, the distance, and other practical matters and that appears to be the case here. Also I believe that even while dating your girlfriend for the last three years, you still call this other girl the "girl of your dreams" which signifies that you have harbored strong feelings for her even though you have stated that you are in love with your girlfriend. So it is possible that you have been holding out for this "girl of your dreams" and now that time has come, but you may be feeling somewhat guilty because you do not want to hurt your current girlfriend
You are very caring and want her to be happy with her life as well and you do not want to hold her back, that is very selfless of you. But may I ask, would you be happy with her if she moved down to Houston with you or would you be happier with this other "girl of your dreams?"
And for this question, try not to think logically about it, but think with your heart.
I also think that if your girlfriend does move down to Houston to be with you, this will cause you guilt and you will always wonder if she is actually happy or resentful of you, which can cause you anxiety or possible depressive symptoms as well.
In my opinion, I think you have stronger feelings and more positive hope for the "girl of your dreams" then you do your girlfriend. But I think you should talk to you girlfriend about this "slump" you two are in first because you have said that the last three years of your life have been wonderful with her and it is possible you two can regain that passion again without her sacrificing her happiness
If you feel that her sacrifice would be too much and that she will not be happy moving down to Houston with her, then ending the relationship may be the best option. She will be hurt initially, but if you are right then in the long run she will realize this is for the best, XXXXX XXXXX to her about this and why you feel this would be best to help her understand.
I think you nailed it with what you said. I believe you have stronger feelings for your "dream girl" then you do for your girlfriend, so even is she does move down to Houston, you may feel forced to continue the relationship because she made this sacrifice and then both of you will not be happy. I think that the right decision would be to end your relationship with your girlfriend, so that she can continue her dream in Chicago and you can explore the potential of a relationship with your "dream girl"
I know that this will be hard for you because you do not want to hurt your girlfriend, but I think it is the right decision because if she moves down to Houston and then you realize that you still do not have the passion for her even though there is no long distance between you and end the relationship later, you will feel more guilty because she made this big sacrifice for you and the relationship still did not work out.
This way if you end the relationship now, it will still be hard for her, but not as hard. And she can continue with her dream. Eventually she will get over the break up and realize that the decision was the right one for her happiness and for yours.
I know it is, but sometimes the right decision is also the hardest. One reason why this is a hard decision for you is because you know in your heart what I am saying is right, but that does no make it any less harder and you do not want to hurt anyone.
I know you do and you obviously do care about her too. You want to see her happy and you do not think she will be happy with you in Houston. Also if you feel that you may not be happy with her because the passion is dwindling and you do not feel as strongly for your girlfriend as you once did.
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