Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am very sorry to know about your overwhelming situation.
I cannot imagine how painful it could be for you to find yourself in this situation. there is nothing that could justify any form of abuse, even less to this magnitude. What you describe shows very serious mental health,personality and behavioral issues affecting your husband life. It seems clear to me that he may have what is known as love and sex addiction, which is a very complex disdorder.
Could you please tell me for how long has he been presenting these behaviors?
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He has cut all emotional ties with me. Says he loves me deeply but that emotionally he has nothing to give. I first found out about massages three years ago, then the affair one and a half years ago. He was sending her money. Yesterday he admitted he has a love sexual addiction to vietnamese women, but has no intention of bringing her here. It is for the most part an emotional affair via internet. I am 60 year old and am lost. We have been to counseling but until yesterday he said he had cut off ties with the vietnamese massages and girlfriend. I knew all along he had not because emotionally he was lost and had cut off everything with our children our grandchildren and me. He is in his own world.
Yes so you think that he would have to have professional counseling on the addiction before he can get out of this? I have moved in the last two weeks near my family (sister and children) because I could not take the daily rejection. He is not mean to me we are just good housemates and that in
itself after a 27 year good marriage is a rejection.