Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
I am sorry that you have been experiencing these symptoms, I can imagine how distressing this is for you
I would like to ask you a few questions to get some more information and give you the best answer possible.
May I ask, what year are you in college?
Have you ever experienced these symptoms before going to college?
Is this your first year in college?
And before going to college have you ever felt lonely, unorganized, and undisciplined before?
So you mention that when friends or girls ask you do something, you get distracted and I assuming you go out with them instead of focusing on your studies and tennis?
I understand, let me give some relief that every new college student goes through this because you are now an adult and have more freedoms as an adult in college, so it is sometimes hard to balance your personal life and educational/tennis commitments too.
Procrastinating in college is also very common as well. Most of your friends and the girls will understand when you say that you are too busy to go out with them because they are in college too, so you should not feel bad about turning them down
I know that you tried to do the daily activity planner, but it did not work
So here is one thing you can try to do is to still go out with your friends, but set an alarm on your phone or watch for an appropriate time on when to come back, so you can be in your room alone and working. Or you can spend your time in the library working on your studies, so no one would pressure you there to go out with them
You can also ask a good friend to be an accountability partner for you, so when someone asks you to go out with them, this friend will there for saying "Are you sure, dont you still have a lot of work to do....or don't you have practice tomorrow." This way your friend can remind you of your commitments to help you keep on track
Sure, you can ask me anything
That is a difficult question, especially at your age because the most common major at your age is undeclared because most students do not know what makes them happy yet and if they are doing the right thing. Most people feel they are doing the right thing when they get excited about what they do and who they are, where they like to give 110 percent in what they are doing because they are passionate about it. Usually doing the right thing is not easy either, it is challenging, but a welcome challenge that you enjoy. There are always going to be rough spots, but a majority of the time you are pleased with what you are doing and passionate about it. Why do you ask, do you think you may not be doing the right thing?
Well the good news for you is that you are still young and around 25-30 percent of first year students transfer colleges, so you still have that option. I personally transferred to a different undergrad college as well because I felt my previous college was not a good fit for me
You can discuss this with a school counselor and they should be able to help you in this regards XXXXX XXXXX give you some direction.
Anytime, is there anything else I can assist you with?
Well I think if you are questioning your mental health, I think seeing a therapist is a good idea. A therapist can be an ally, a supporter, and someone there to talk to and give you advice when you need it.
If you like I can also provide you with some good books to help improve your mental health as well
And also most universities have a counseling center, so you can receive therapy for free or really low cost
Well if you have a new question you can put "For DoctorZ only" before you type the question to get to me, and this means you would have to pay each time. But if you have follow up questions, you can come back to this question and ask your follow up questions for free after you finish rating me.
Thank you very much, and I wish you the best of luck with everything. My goal is to provide you with excellent service, so if you ever have any further questions or concerns please do not hesitate to contact me at anytime.