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When you had trouble leaving this morning was is because you were feeling depressed or did you feel anxious about going outside?
If you do not feel anxiety about going out, then this is all due to depression. I was hoping you would respond so that I can confirm this.
I have taught at the college level for a number of years and I know that there is a policy at just about all schools to give special accommodations to students with any kind of disability, physical, mental, or emotional.
With your diagnosis in hand, your professor would not only make accommodations for your absences (perhaps give you home assignments) but could not penalize you for missing classes.
You would still have to make the grade, of course, but absence because of dysthymic disorder, would be excused.
You would, in fact, report this to the dean or other responsible administrator, and it would be noted and you would be given a statement to give to your professor who would also be notified by administration.
It is because of depression
I do not like to be in public when I feel so emotional and prone to crying
I want to talk to my teacher but I feel as though I am just making it more difficult for her to teach and it isn't fair to her or the other students
Line your appointments up with your therapist and get the paperwork. These teachers are used to getting such requests and it is part of their responsibility to make accommodations for those students in need.
She will not be annoyed.
Are you taking any medications for your Dysthymia?
I do not want to set up a life style where I am dependent on drugs to feel "normal"
but I am starting to think they might help
There are medications, such as bupropion, which will help you, energize you, not cause weight gain (as other antidepressants do) and not cause sexual dysfunction, as others do.
You now have a lifestyle that is dysfunctional and that will keep you held down.
how will it affect my athletics?
Often the best approach to any kind of depression is a combination of therapy and medication.
It should not affect your athletics.
In fact, engaging in athletics is one of the best things you can do to resist your depressive moods, as it creates hormones in your body that will resist the depression.
I am also curious about how to deal with my "highs and lows"
because I have been feeling good and productive lately (the past week or so)
Get plenty of sunshine and fresh air, and supplements of Omega 3-6-9 and vitamin D3.
but I will have triggers (last night I had a nightmare) that make it impossible for me to start my day
Tell me about your highs.
my highs are when I am busy
like when I have water polo games
and spend time with friends
I used to experience them with my girlfriend but we aren't together anymore
I feel like I know why I am alive, which I think is just to experience whatever it is I want at that moment
because sometimes I feel like I won't feel right again, or that feeling good is a lie
Have you ever suffered any trauma in the past?
I was never sexually abused
What about emotional abuse, neglect, or abandonment?
my ex-girlfriend and I were incredibly close and she cheated on me often before breaking up with me and then secretly hooking up with my 'bestfriend' and now she doesn't talk to me
also I guess I have no real relationship with my father, but he tries in his own way
I was bullied by my older brother in our youth, and possibly my dad to an extent, which contributes to my lack of self-worth
early on I established a feeling to needing to fit in and feeling unwanted in social situations
Were you late in developing socially?
what do you mean late?
like it took me a while to pick up on social cues?
Do you also have trouble making eye contact?
I guess I hadn't thought of that in a way aside from how I used to be weird
and I taught myself how to fit in
I do not think so
You are adaptable and that is good.
I feel as if I thrive in social situations now
Do you engage in any repetitive motions such as rocking, or hand flapping?
Describe these events.
I tap my leg
and pick my finger nails
or cross my arms
if I can't pick anymore
my public speaking teacher said my speech last class was good but that I tapped my foot
in an awkward leaning way
Are you fascinated with the details of an object?
I obsess over specific people and all of the little things that make them whole
Do you focus on the parts of objects?
not in an abnormal way
because everything else I said yes to was an instant correct for me
What do you mean by that last statement, if you don't mind explaining?
i mean that the other yes or no questions you asked me were simple yes's
like the social development
even though I don't think about it too much
your question immediately triggered memories and an answer
and I do not consider myself unusually asphyxiated with objects other that people and sounds
oops not asphyxiated
Actually, asphyxiated is a good descriptive term.
I have already asked this question but let me ask it again. Think carefully if you ever have trouble holding eye contact with others.
lol on phew
yes I do
good sense of humor
Can you expand that answer?
I just thought about how sometimes in therapy when I feel overwhelmed I look at the ground
overwhelmed or embarrassed by my emotions
And in other situations?
and I probably do it in other situations
but I tend to feel comfortable when I am engaged with somebody
it is when I am alone that I tend to trap myself
Thank you so much for answering my questions. You have revealed a lot to me which I would like to share with you.
I know that I always would look deeply into my ex-girlfriend's eyes often
okay thank you very much
and thank you for saying I have a good sense of humor, I will try to keep it up because it helps with a lot of things
Yes, we must always try to keep our sunny side up.
do you think that taking a medication such as bupropion might have a crippling effect if I stop taking it?
You have very strong indications from several things you have said: the late social development, the bullying, the eye contact, and repetitive motions, and your dysthymia add up to something else, and that is a mild case of Apserger's Syndrome.
I have worked with a number of children and adults with this hard to diagnose condition, and I believe that you may fit into this category.
I am clumsy
I can be too! :)
It can also be an indicator.
I feel as though conditions such as apserger's tend to accompany an inability to feel empathy
which I know I sometimes feel too much
Very often they do. You feel too much empathy?
I am very apt at putting myself in other's shoes and feeling how they must feel
I do not know if feeling too much empathy is possible but I try my very best to understand fully where somebody is coming from and to understand that I probably cannot relate to everything
That is NOT characteristic of Asperger's, but you do have other symptoms.
seeing my girlfriend cut herself, sometimes thinking about it even after it has but many many months, I could feel pain
so having apserger's doesn't remove the possibility of being empathetic?
You may have have been slow to develop socially because you were not given enough attention and you may have been so put down as to suffer from very low self-esteem manifested as dysthymia.
However, it is not a requirement for diagnosis if you feel empathy, so I would certainly urge you to have this checked out by a competent developmental psychologist.
Lots of therapists miss this diagnosis. I seem to be able to diagnose accurately, but you cannot consider this a diagnosis on JustAnswer because it is officially not acceptable, even if I am correct.
I will bring up your thoughts with my therapist
because I have never considered this possibility myself and it is sort of eye opening
That would be the wisest thing to do.
Here are the "official" diagnostic criteria from the DSM-IV for Aspergers Disorder:
The following criterion are from the DSM-IV. Asperger's disorder is one of five specific "Pervasive Developmental Disorders" listed:
A. Qualitative impairment in social interaction, as manifested by at least two of the following:
B. Restricted repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behavior, interests, and activities, as manifested by at least one of the following:
C. The disturbance causes clinically significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
D. There is no clinically significant general delay in language e.g., single words used by age two years, communicative phrases used by age three years).
E. There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development or in the development of age-appropriate self-help skills, adaptive behavior (other than in social interaction), and curiosity about the environment in childhood.
F. Criteria are not met for another specific pervasive developmental disorder or schizophrenia.
So, if you have two criteria from part A, one from Part B, and if these factors cause significant impairment in your functioning, then you are diagnosable.as having this disorder.
Some clues are inability to maintain eye contact, inability to form strong emotional bonds, social phobia or anxiety, physical mannerisms or rituals. The guide above is your true indicator of whether or not you have this disorder.
what about approaching my teachers? I feel as though I should try asap and I do not know the appropriate procedure
Go to the school administration and they will facilitate the process. Bring in documentation from your therapist for which you will have to sign a release to him so that he does not run afoul of HIPAA privacy laws.
the only thing is that I form overly strong emotional bonds with specific people
and have extreme difficultly letting go
Such as your girlfriend.
or other girls in the past
but mostly my girlfriend because she was the first to reciprocate
Get rid of pictures, objects, mementos. Write her a letter saying that your are through with her forever and then just burn it.
Don't forget the ex.
I am not ready to let go
especially because I have a very close relationship with her family
and I do not want to lie to myself
and I would take her back in a second
Let her and her family go so that you can heal. You must work on it and not hang on to impossible dreams. THAT is lying to yourself.
She is apparently done so you MUST move on with your life.
Think about it.
but she might come back
There will be another.
she broke up with me once and came back
She has broken up with you twice. This is a pattern already.
I am afraid that I will never find another person I can be that close to
I do not relate well with many people
and those that I do tend to be disinterested
What is most important for you now is to get your school affairs in order. There will be no problem getting special accommodations and many schools have a special office of accommodations.
and I cripple myself by not taking risks socially
As you progress in therapy you will learn to take more risks.
You are very welcome.
I shall keep you in my prayers.
I hate being something people have to make accommodations for. I want to help society not take away from it and the kind people who want to help but shouldn't be burdened by me. I wish I could inform my teachers of the reasons for my disappearances without forcing them to take special notice of me in a negative way
I am not used to initiating my professional relationships with "hi, I am emotionally damaged and I will make your job more difficult."
Nobody has asked you to do that and you are creating a totally false situation.
This is a bureaucratic matter, You go to the office, where they are REQUIRED BY LAW to make accommodations and do so quite willingly. This is a normal procedure. You do not discuss this with your teachers and they do not make value judgments on you.
It you had impaired hearing, instead, you would be accommodated.
This has become a core American value so you should not try to make it something other than it is.
You have gone silent.
sorry i am just thinking
but you are right
my therapist is teaching me to analyze my thoughts and to see when I am lying to myself so that I can see what is really true
but sometimes I feel like my initial thoughts are there for a reason and that it is lying to run away from how my brain wants to react
It is named after a river in Egypt: Denial
the thing that really gets me is how sometimes I feel good enough to make good choices for myself and be manageable, and at these times I do not search out help because I think I do not need it
and when I feel as if I need help, I do not have the energy, drive, and value to search it out
and that is a good one
i will use the river joke later and pretend I came up with it
Make the help available and benefit from it when you can. YOU must force yourself to act.
Discuss this with your therapist who is hopefully well-versed in understand the complexities of Asperger's, and see what he says about that, and about the antidepressant bupropion.
Okay, that sounds like a great idea
I hope I can manage myself before then
but I feel as if I can
Great. I wish you great success and self-motivation.
I have something to say about my attachment to my exgirlfriend
she was raped about 3-4 years ago and during the course of our love I saw a great deal of pain and learn a great deal of what it takes to be a woman and how much anxiety comes with the unique struggles a person in her situation and with her level of genius can experience
I made many promises to her and never leaving her and never abandoning her, the kinds of promises she made back but has been unable to hold (which I understandP)
I want to let go of her but I do not want to break the things I said and I do not want to abandon a person I consider worth a lifetime of waiting but I know that I need to do something to help myself
That surely has affected and hurt her. Broken promises end the ties that bind.
It is your choice to hang on, but it is dysfunctional to your life.
especially because on a selfish level, she makes me feel more right in the world than anything ever came close to
but even before her i felt dysfunctional emotionally
it is just that now is has an affect on my life professionally as well
She is not the only one who can do this, and you are the one that makes the choices for yourself. You don't have to rationalize this to anyojne.
is emotional instability typical of apserger's?
in the way that i feel extreme happiness sometimes, which competes with incredible sadness
Asperger people have difficulty processing emotion and may therefore display abnormal emotional reactions to various stimuli.
We have been chatting for nearly an hour and a half. Is there any other way that I can help you? I cannot solve all of your problems here and now but I hope that I have given you good guidance and comfort.
Sorry about that
and yes you have
My pleasure to help you.
you have given my another perspective in addition to a helpful way for me to release the angst I've been feeling this morning
Wonderful. I shall continue to keep you in my prayers.
I tend to close myself off from people in a self defeating way because conversation always helps me to feel better. Have a great day/life
whoever your significant other is must be very lucky
You too. I am here if you need me in future.
If I had one she would be, alas. LOL.
I hope I can help people one day.Thank you :)