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I am so sorry that you have been experiencing these symptoms, I can imagine how distressing this must be for you
May I ask, when did you start to feel this way?
My fears have got worse over time. I'd say my anxiety got worse when I decided to end my long term relationship with my lover of eight years. I am HIV+, my partner isn't as far as I know. I think I punish myself by admitting that I always like to be honest so when I meet a possible lover I tell them of my health status. Also, I was in a heterosexual relationship 18 years ago and now I haven't a true relationship with my two children. My son came to live with me for three years, seven months ago he went back to his mother. During those years he was with me I found I couldn't tolerate him, I made life unbearable for him.
So you feel that you push people away because of your HIV status as a way of punishing yourself. This is a form of self-sabotage that is not uncommon with individuals that have similar health issues like yourself because you feel like you do not want to burden others. Have you considered talking to a therapist that specializes with HIV+ patients?
I have in the past but my problems seem to continue or get worse. Initially I acquired HIV to kill myself but 18 years later I am still alive. Please do not judge me when I say I want to die, I do not want to live to a right old age I just can't wait to have this all end, oblivion
Now I am all alone and I can't find a way to stop thinking ill of myself... even when I go out in public I feel nervous and can't wait to escape
So you have tried counseling and self-help books, have you considered the use of anti-depressant medication? Sometimes we need some extra medical help to counter these feelings depression that you are having, and these symptoms are consistent with depression. I would recommend Citalopram or Lexapro as studies have shown that these antidepressants do not have an effect on anti-retroviral medication
In addition, you may not have tried the right self-help books too. Have you tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?
Not to my knowledge (CBT), as to the anti-depressant I am a train operator would they affect my job and would I need a prescription for them?
You would need a prescription for them and I recommended two antidepressants with the least amount of side effects so it should not have an effect on your job performance. CBT's premise is that most of your feelings of depression are caused by negative thoughts, so to counteract this CBT will retrain your brain to help you think more objectively and positively to help you lessen your symptoms of depression. I can show you some techniques that can help and also recommend some books as well.
Wow... Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX try the techniques (feared I was losing my mind) and yes I'd like the book recommendations.
So this link may help you, it contains a technique I use with patients called a thought record. It will help you keep track of any negative thoughts you have. You put the negative thought on paper, the emotion accompanying, the evidence to support it, and the evidence against it. Then I want you to come up with an alternative thought for the situation (more objective and plausible). This will help you change your way of thinking to be able to think more positive and not automatically go to a negative type of thinking.
In addition this TRAP/TRAC worksheet will help you come up with an alternative coping strategy because you have been using avoidance as your current strategy and that has not been working
Many thanks, XXXXX XXXXX thank you.
And I also think that this will help you with your anxiety as well by focusing on alternative thoughts for certain anxiety provoking situations
I am happy to help, let me get you those book recommendations too
Never thought so much information was at my fingertips but you have been of great help, thank you.
Anytime, I am always happy to help. Is there anything else I can assist you with?
I will try/read you recommendations and thanks for giving me hope, once again thank you.
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Great... thank you for your patience, bye