Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.
The fact that you have these many symptoms and that you have tried various ways to address them without success says you could possibly have ADHD. You can have some of the symptoms of ADHD and still have the disorder. You can also have symptoms and not have the disorder but still need the same or similar treatment. Regardless, you are bothered by your symptoms to the point it affects your ability to function like you want to and therefore they need addressed.
Since your symptoms appear to point to ADHD, you may want to look into that as a possible diagnosis until you learn otherwise. The best way to tell what is going on is to have a mental health evaluation. Any therapist Master's level or Ph.D can do an evaluation for you and determine exactly what your symptoms are. Your doctor can help you find a good therapist or you can search on line at:
For adults who have ADHD, it is characterized by trouble concentrating, organizing tasks, remembering information and completing work on time. Up to 10% of children are diagnosed with ADHD and 60% of those carry the disorder into adulthood.
The criteria for Adult ADHD is different than with children. Here are some common symptoms you might experience with the disorder:
Relationship problems or Marital Difficulties
Tendency to overlook details
Not paying attention during conversations, inability to listen well (in any conversation)
Medications can do wonders. The medications work by stimulating the pre frontal cortex of the brain. This area of the brain remains in a less mature state (ability to organize) and has trouble dealing with the impulses from the central part of the brain where wants and desires emerge. The medication simply "wakes up" the pre frontal cortex further and allows it to function as it should.
These medications do have some side effects such as possible sleep issues and changes in appetite. However, for short term use, they are usually considered safe.
You can also use self help and support groups to help control your symptoms, if you have ADHD. Here are some resources to help:
You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder
by Kate Kelly, Peggy Ramundo and Edward M. M.D. Hallowell
I hope this has helped you,