Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I ma very sorry to know about this overwhelmingly painful situation you have been experiencing.
Thank you for your response. I am extremely depressed and having a hard time coping with this.
Your story is very sad since it clearly shows how regardless of the limitations Aspergers S. presents, you were able to build a very healthy and fulfilling relationship, with problems typical of this disorder, but a good one for both of you.
He was married before and left his wife in a similar way I have now found years later. I keep trying to explain it with the Aspergers being the root. Are you familiar with Asperger patients
That's very sad and concerning, and as frustrating as it may sound, this may be common behavior for people with this disorder.
Is this a common thing for Aspergers men to do? My biggest fear is he will not care or feel anything about the relationship we had. I don't know why this hurts me so deeply. I need to know that he realized the sweet loving relationship that we had. I fear he will just put it away and never think about it again...
Yes, I am. His core inability to perceive-process-express emotions in effective ways, and to make necessary connections at that level, to perceive the impact their behaviors could have in other people, to be empathic and supportive makes it truly challenging and painful for loved ones to behold and experience in their relationships.
Unhappily there is no way too know for sure what an dhow he feels about it, remember that his disability is a lot about his experience of feelings and emotions, perceiving, understanding and experiencing them. Only time would show you how his own maturity level, personality, caring and circumstances impact his decisions around your relationship.
I have been through a bad divorce before from a 25 year marriage that was always bad. It made sense to leave that marriage. It took time but I healed from that. This seems so much harder because it makes no sense. I can't understand what happened. I can only try to think it may be better in the long run as I was often his caregiver.
It is very sad but nobody has control on what he chooses to do but himself, and he is an adult and with experience, thus he knows what he's doing within his limitations.
Thank you I appreciate your response. I will find a therapist to have sessions with If I continue to stay depressed.
Please do so. I am willing to support you with professional counseling too, if you feel comfortable with me and trying this service online.
Ok I will consider that, thank you.. How do I reach you if I should decide to do that?
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Oh ok I didn't realize that... thanks
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You're very welcome. Please take gentle care and consistent action getting the support you need to heal and effectively cope from this very painful situation. I am here to support you.