Hi Doctors My son ( 10 years old ) is a Poor educational attainment , and one of his problems , he don't Absorption when he at exam , that he must solve all papers at the exam , solve all questions . Absorption is so low at his mind , he don't care if he solve 1 question or 5 questions , and by the way when he fail at one of his exams and we told him that you fail , he didn't care as he didn't Absorption this . How can we Increase the Absorption for these matters ? what is his problem ? Thanks
Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about your son's academic problem.
When you say he does not "absorb" I imagine you mean he has a hard time learning the information from different subjects, right?
For how long has he had this problem?
Is he able to pay attention to what people say, when teacher explains a subject, or when he is really interested in something like a game or TV show, or fil, is he able to pay and keep good attention and to remember what happened during the film, or to enjoy and perform well in the game when alone and when with other children?
Hi Doctor Rafael
Hi, thank you for joining the chat.
If he is able to pay attention, concentrate and learn when it is about something he truly enjoys doing, where he needs to use the same mental skills, focusing, using his memory to remember things, interacting with a game or other children and more, then the problem could not be about a real deficit in his learning capacities but mostly a behavioral problem. But if he presents this difficulties in multiple areas and activities, being obvious that he has a hard time paying attention, remembering things, and understanding what he read- heard or saw, then we could believe that he may have a learning disorder, which could go from an attention deficit disorder to other problems, and the only way to know for sure would be through a complete psychological evaluation.
The problem started when he start going to school , and yes he didn't pay attention at school in general at different subjects , but at TV Show movie he pay attention and remember every seconds what happened and repeat it to me and
Representation that , and he love games and be happy when he got goal
Now his attitude of "not caring" if he fails is for sure a behavioral problem, which could be out of lack of assertiveness or as a way of coping, to avoid feeling frustrated for not being able to learn and perform.
Then he is able to pay good attention for long periods of time to things-activities he likes, and to remember detail and the hole story, like when playing games, when by himself or with other children, right?
Then being that the case, it would make sense to believe that he has not a deficiency in his mental abilities-processes but it is more a behavioral problem. How was him at school in previous years?
hmmm , previous years is Poor educational attainment
But by time I feel he getting improve
specially at life skills
and for education the improvement is slow
It could be that when he is very motivated and excited about something, when he likes what he does, he has no problems paying attention, remembering things and then reproducing or talking about it, but whenever that's not the case he just do not make enough effort and his lack of caring could confirm that such could be his case. But again there is no way to know for sure unless he is evaluated by a competent mental health professional like an educational or child psychologist.
How has his family and personal life been, stressors or issues at home, with siblings or family, both parents situation, any constant stressor or problem in the family or at the school?
His problem was that his brain was out electricity increase , and he was talking medicine called ( Depalept)
and now his electricity brain in normal like any child
I was know that Depalept make the attention little less
but he stopped it since 2 years approx.
Could you please tell me more about this problem he had, could you describe how he was and what was the diagnosis and treatment he got besides of this medication and why he stopped using it?
Has your son been suffered of epilepsy?
(been suffering of epilepsy)
For ( epilepsy ) it was too little , not the epilepsy itself , and we was making Planning electric brain , and the electricity was medium case , as he was looking up for moments and after that he back to the normal situation , after he has talking ( Deplacine ) for 3 years ( 5 - 8 ) Years , then the doctor make a new electric trend and he told us that every thing is ok and he doesn't suffer anymore .
We have stopped the treatment since 2 years
During taking the medicine and after stop it , his education level is weak , and the improvement is too slow
And when I ask him a question , he understand it well , but when he answer it , he didn't answer correctly as I feel he has a lot of words in his mind and can't organize it to speak it
I am very glad to know he has been able to rehabilitate this good from this disorder, that's truly good. Then what you said before makes sense. I believe the disorder affected him for sure but the fact that he has been able to use all these psychological processes without any significant problem when he has been interested and enjoying such activities is the best indicator that with the right motivation, education and support, discipline and affection, he should be able to improve his academic performance too.
Oh I see, but he does always or most of the time is that way or only with academic-school related matters?
In general , not only academic
If you are clear that during and after drug treatment he has presented this problem, then it would make sense to believe it has been caused by the initial disorder, but teh fact that he's been improving, even slowly but improving is very positive since shows he has been rehabilitating, but requires further support, and that's why psychotherapy and counseling are necessary. Psychiatric drugs could play a positive role is prescribed in wise ways, but rehabilitation could only happen with adequate psychological treatment, and when we talk about children, the treatment must actively involved parents and educators as possible.
My suggestion is for you to get him a complete psychological assessment to know what's his current level of intellectual functioning and if he has any learning problem, for it to be clearly identified, but specially to receive necessary psychological support to develop necessary skills to improve his learning experience and for you to know how to support him with more assertive parenting taking into account the work he needs to do to improve his attention, concentration and self-control, to relax and be more willing to learn and better cope with the challenges learning presents.
I understand , this great information
Do you think that when he gets older he will Accommodates better ?
I am glad to know this has been helpful, and feel hopeful about your son's progress with your loving and wise support plus adequate necessary psychological assistance. Thank you for your trust.
Yes, the good news is that his initial condition was early detected and treated and he fully rehabilitated from it, and that these other problems have been slowly getting better, thus with further development and growth, since he is still very young, good professional counseling-psychotherapeutic support, and good, loving and assertive affection and discipline from both parenst and family, he should be able to improve more and more. Just be very patient, understanding, but also provide good discipline, boundaries, motivation and teach him how to be more responsible, that all would allow him to grow and become a wise and fulfilled adult.
I see I see
Thank you so much for your trust and take good care. Bye bye
I've question Doctor
Would you open new question for new discussion ?
1- When we teach him , we find him not completely concertinaing and he is Passion with Wrestling ( WWE ) , So what is the steps that parents should follow to let him concentrate while he learning him ?2-And he playing Wrestling with his brother at his full power , but he afraid to hit anyone else his brothers , even if the one has 4 years ! he afraid to hit him ,, but for his brother there is no any problem , so for this point there is 2 questions , the first one : How can we stop him from watching WWE at TV and Youtube , as we tried many times to let him stop and try to let him understand that WWE No good and it's Violence , and he understand and can stop for maximum 2 days and return to it , so what can we do for that ? and the second question , why he afraid for replay the hit that someone give it to him even if the one he was hit him has 4 years old !
Thanks for the answer
Can we continue here at this post , ask and answer ? I suggest to continue here , and Accept every answer you post .
Thanks so much , I'll continue here and will open new question soon asking most of my questions and you can answer every topic in unique answer .