Hello I believe I can help you with your concern
I am sorry that your son has been exhibiting this type of behavior, I can understand why this worries you
It definitely sounds like your son was angry and has some justification for being angry because the other child threw something, although your son's response to that stimuli was not appropriate. He has to figure out a way to be assertive with his anger to express it in a healthy manner
I use this worksheet with my child and adult patients that helps a lot by practicing assertive techniques to express anger in a healthy manner
Also narrative therapy is very beneficial for children by reading a book with certain morals to them and then talking about that afterwards and helping him to apply it to his daily life.
Here are some books I have used with children about teaching empathy and coping mechanisms on anger.
thank you, XXXXX XXXXX taking a moment to review the worksheet...
No worries, take your time
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX taking a moment to review the worksheet...
would you suggest he meet with a professional or that we look for certain indicators for that step?
If you feel like it is necessary, from what you told me it seems like your son is overall a very good student and son, but has some issues with anger control, but these issues do not appear to be severe at this moment. You can try working on this Anger Decision sheet, the books, and how he responds to the negative reinforcement (by the way that was a good tactic) and see if he changes his behavior and is better at controlling his anger and frustration...or better at communicating his anger and frustration
If you feel like he is still not changing his behavior for the better, then you can see about meeting a child therapist or psychologist for more professional help for your son
Thank you so much. I feel I have some tools to work with, here. Is this a common problem for a child his age? I feel a little bit like we should be over this. He is entering 3rd grade.
Well you mentioned this happened during street hockey, is your son into sports and being very active?
Yes. They are active kids. The friend/neighbor too. I have two other active boys as well: 11 and 6 yrs old.
So this behavior is not unusual with boys that are very active and in elementary school, and usually this resolves on its own, but with the tools I gave you it will resolve faster and your son will learn some valuable skills to help him during adolescence and in adulthood.
ok thanks again. this has been helpful.
Anytime, I am always happy to help
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