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I am sorry that you are going through this dilemma about having your son develop a relationship with his father, when he seems adamant that he does not want to
May I ask, has your son told you why he does not want to visit his father?
He tells me because he doesn't like him and he is mean.
Okay, well it sounds like he is very resentful to his father for something. It is possible that his father mistreated him in some way, so I do not think forcing him to go would be in his best interest. You can do joint visits with his father, like going to the park, a movie, a restaurant to see how and he father interact. This can allow for your son to ease in his relationship with his father.
Also if your son is still adamant against this, then may be seeing a child therapist would be a good idea to explore the deeper reasons why your son does not want to be with his father.
Unfortunately we have lived in different states since the slip. I'm in the military so we move a lot, and his dad went back to our hometown
Oh, I understand. Then I would not push your son to go as he is so adamant at this point, but instead have him see a child therapist for a few sessions to explore the reasons why and address the concerns that your son has about his father. These concerns can then be communicated to his father and possibly a remedy/compromise can be established.
It is possible that his negative feelings for his father could be because he witnessed one or two instances of his father being mean and this is the image that has stuck in his mind. A therapist can give your son perspective and help him see the positives of his father as well
That makes sense. My son will still talk about the time me and his had an argument and he slammed and pinned me to the wall by my neck. I think it is a mixture of that and him feeling like he abandoned us. I still remember distinctly the day his dad left he looked at me and said he doesn't like him or want to see him because he left us
Yeah I think your son is still going through that trauma and that is why he does not want to go, which in understandable. His father may want to think about visiting for short periods of time, if he can, to show his son that he has changed and is not that person anymore. Therapy can help your son see this side of his father and maybe help him forgive his father and try to re-establish the relationship from there.
Ok thank you for your insight
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Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX they can move past this period. He is getting older and is going to need his dad eventually.
You son is still young and I think he will be able to move past this, but his father will have to prove it to him by his actions that he is not that same man that your son remembers.