Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about this challenging and frustrating situation.
Your message appears very clear to me. You are both adults, who have previous experiences-marriage, have children and feel good with each other. But it seems that what you expect and need from this relationship is much different from what he does. I absolutely agree that it takes time to "build" a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and you have been dating only for 7 months and actually being together-meeting one night a week and every second weekend, which is very little, specially for a new relatiosnhip.
Then it makes sense your agreement about giving yourselves time and take it slowly about your children. At the same time I wonder what time frame you have set to work on building this relationship to the point of being able to form really an integral part of each others' lives?
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I can see you are online and in the chat but cannot read any input from you, it could be a chat bug that uses to limit communication with experts. I will change format from chat to postings for us to dialogue without having this technical this problem.
Thank you I was thinking around that time too. Would you suggest enjoying the relationship for what it is now or having a discussion with him around this? I was thinking as it gets closer to the one year mark I'd bring it up if he doesn't then deal with it then.