I am married to a man who has children from a previous marriage as do I. They are all grown and doing well except for his eldest,named Molly. She is 25 and has always been a problem,emotionally unstable, very spoiled and lazy. His ex wife was and still is an alcoholic and Molly has moved in and out from her mother's many times and lives there now. My husband owns his own business and has employed both his daughters. His youngest is doing well and will probably take over one day. Molly figured herself to be the heir apparent and is very competitive with her sister. However, she was a store manager and finally got herself fired for poor performance, poor people skills and hiring a guy who was her boyfriend who then stole thousands of dollars which she knew about.
She has never accepted responsibility for her bad choices and to this day whines about how she doesn't know why she was fired. Currently she and her Dad are not in touch but when she contacts him,she always wants something.
My husband seems reluctant to cut her off completely and has the typical divorced dad guilt even though he has done and tried to do more for her than anyone. He still pays for health insurance and tries to get together but is brushed off. He and his ex settled their divorce and property recently (it was long and drawn out) and the ex is entitled to the proceeds of two of his stores. (its a pizza franchise). Molly is obviously in cahoots with the mom because she gets money and can do as she pleases. She is not nice to her mom however and has even gotten physically rough with her on occasion.
In the last month, this Molly took it upon herself to call other franchise owners to help her mother market these stores. My husband has first right of refusal,which means he can buy back the stores if he wants to match the best bid,assuming of course that the price is a fair market value. Molly gave false,inflated sales numbers to one of the bigwig owners in our area and he submitted a bid based on these phony numbers. My husband happened to encounter him at a business meeting and inquired why his bid was so high and that's when it came out what Molly had done.
We have been advised that we cannot prosecute for fraud because a transaction would have had to go through and have monetary damage to be fraud. However,it is certainly attempted fraud and a real backstabbing move.
Like many men, my husband doesn;t like to be confrontational. It seems to me this is just going too far and Molly should be informed that her dad found out what she did
In the meantime,she sent him an email all happy and chatty and then trying to get information out of him at the end about the store sales. Really nervy.
So after all of this introduction, is this extreme enough where the parent should confront the child? Should they be cut off? What do you see as this daughter's issues?
There never seem to be any consequences for this young woman.