I need to know how to set boundaries with my family. I was adopted when I was 5 and molested by their biological son --who is 9 years my senior, until I was 18 (off and on through out the years). I have asked my parents not to invite me to his house for things...and not to always talk about him around me (they know because I told them when I was 18). They don't get it..they think I need to forgive him and move on...and they think he only hurt me...I don't know for sure, but I think he has hurt other girls in the same way. What do I do? Am I wrong? Are they right? I have forgiven him, I just don't trust or like him and don't want him around my family. I know eventually (and soon) I need to make an appointment with a therapist for regular visits as I have many other issues to work out.
Thank you for the book recommendations...I will definitely check them out.