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thank you for your time
My pleasure. This sounds like the makings of quite a love story to me, you know. Did he find you on FB, or did you find him?
he found me, he friend requested me 3 times before I finally accepted and decided I could be an adult, lol
And have you seen him in person since connecting on FB?
Sorry, I see that answer in your question.
Tell me why you fear he only wants to be friends.
yes, he asked to meet, I pushed for coffee at a local coffee shop between both our homes, he insisted on making me dinner
I asked him initially what his expectation was why he wanted to meet? I told him I felt like he took my heart threw it in a martini shaker and now my feelings and emotions are foggy
Sorry, I a bit confused. Did he end the earlier relationship with you?
he did because I was really struggling accepting myself as gay man and he felt I needed time to find myself
he is 43 today and since dinner we have been spending at least one or two days a week togethe
So he wanted to take the relationship to the level of sexual intimacy before and your were not ready?
Okay, then go for it! If he was sexually attracted to then, he is now. Tell him how you feel. As far as telling him about your suicide attempt, I would tell him when you feel the time is right. If you are comfortable doing so now, then do so; if not, wait and the right time will come.
Thank you Dr Eleanor
im sure if he
im sure if he doesn't feel the same
You are very welcome, my pleasure.
same towards me he will b
he will be honest and i can handle being friends with him.
Thank you again, sorry not used to chattin
Good, but I think he will tell you he feels the same.
You did great here in chat!
have a great weekend Dr! and thank you again for your time. i didn't know who else to go to as i have no gay friends and i can only share so much with close friends and family without being judged.
Well, I am honored to have helped you. If I can be of help in the future, simply place "Ask Eleanor" at the beginning of your question and it will be directed to me. I wish you all the best with your relationship, take care, Eleanor