Hi. Welcome. I am a Licensed Master Social Worker with more than 20 years experience working with individuals and families on a variety of issues.
How did your husband respond when you asked that he support you in those moments?
He may just feel that it is a no win situation with your dad if he is this harsh guy. That doesn't make it easier for you to deal with but maybe just a thought as to why your husband doesn't stand up
I will wait for you to come online so that we may talk.
his passivity is hurtful but it does sound to me that he feels why bother. how does he respond when you speak to him about your feelings?
are you with me?
I would like to support you. Let me know if you would like to continue talking.
I am here. waiting for you
I can hear your sadness around it and I hear you losing respect for him around this. It may be helpful to try and understand why he is limited in this way....he may not be able to verbalize the why for you, but clearly, something prevents him from standing up for you even though he would like to.
It doesn't make him a weak man, just one that may struggle with standing up to others who are harsh.
I know you would like it to be different but maybe empathy for him around this might help so that you personalize it less.
especially since he does own it.
He just may not be able to do it.
I see you are offline again. I will be signing of for the evening but will respond to you when I hear back from you.
I responded above. Can you see it?