Our grandson (12 1/2 y) whom, we have lived by and cared for all his life, was taken off Lamictal 200mg suddenly w/o titraiting to a stop. I am a nurse,and he is tired and starring and is un-decisive. I Am about at whits end, of this mother that sees the husband, & three children as the ones with problems. Where she is now conveniently had this middle child, medicated. She has been the ANGER problem for 17+ years. By saying that has passed her behaviour(s) down to the children. This young man, could tell you he has learned his behaving from his mother. His Psyc. does not talk w/o his mom being in room: he tells me, " you do realize I have to ride home with mom?" His dad(our son) is a battered husband SCARRED of his wife, will not even have guts to stand-up to her. The oldest son(15 1/2y) has beat his dad in back with fists & came at his dad with Loppers saying he was going to casterate him and kill him.(Our Son has MS on Brain C- Spine, T-Spine)Is a Volunteer Fire Fighter, and Farms many hours)& this son came after his dad with a Bat,broke-out his tail light. That was ALL one episode. Anyway, this family has has a Hx. of Domestic Violence.Oldest child was taken away at Infant/Toddler stage w/Fx. Skull,& multiple arm injuries & dad had taken him home, from daycare ok. The mother called me while child was in bathtub,saying he wouldn't stop crying & had a Knot on his head. I told her they would have to go to ER, i am a nurse & cannot access. The DHS took him: But, undetermined in Court if at Daycare or at home. The mother is an Habitual Liar, amongst, Anger,Narcasistic,etc., And as a family believed until the oldest got old enough to talk. Then, I was watching him and the middle boy,had quit being a Nurse until these got biiger to daycare them. Then, the oldest probably 4yo. said, "gma my mom hits my head down on the tub, like THIS." My husband and I had Our son and her come to our home and told them the children will be staying with us until Anger mng. Class is Completed, or Welfare will will take them. the Welfare came took them, before, the Anger Class was finished. Well, when she would Black one of the children's eye we wouldn't see them for awhile. We are a farm family, and we have only been to their home maybe 5 times, delivering meals after babies being born,etc. Telling you that so you don't see us as medling in their lives. The third child,now she is 10yo. When she was born, went by ambulance not breathing. The second child the one that has been put on Meds.,was taken by ambulance: the mother came with him at age of 3 1/2yrs., into living room, from bathtub, told our son that he stopped breathing & he was practicing holding his breath under water in the BathTub. My son told her call 911 & started giving CPR. Undetermined at ER, could be a childhood seizure. All are in Family Council.,yet,none will speak-up against the mom. The Husband,won't either he is so brow beaten,it's sad
. The mother goes against anything the dad says. She defies his giving any discipline to children. EXAMPLE: dad says, " we do not want our oldest son going over & staying alone at girls houses, this will promote teen pregnancy." Mom says, " when dad leaves oldest son we will do what we want." Well, as you know the family being in Council is great news, right ? That is what I thought until I hear that the mom does all the lead play. And if I would have 'seen' this I would have done something, before the "Council." Yet- Believed- a person who tells lies as well as telling the truth as been a Eye-Opener. This is the most sad thing to me and praying that my husband and I can be here for these children. When our son told us she has thrown and broke objects, lamps,phones,etc. in rage and he holds her until she quits trying to hit him is enough to break our hearts.That she tells him get & he sleeps nights in his vehicle in the pasture. She doesn't pay bills has gotten electricity turned-off. Didn't tell him this last week that the middle son had a Med. Change & he helps on our farm and he is slow minded. Well, all these things between dad & mom are there decisions. But, we have spent(gladly) $10,500 on Sylvan for them to be able to read and the youngest 10 year old can't still read & her math is bad. And that little 10 year old already held back one year is going into 5th grade , it is pitiful. The oldest by 15 1/2yo, failed -out had to take summer school,or,not pass. We caught the Middle one in time with Sylvan. But, the teachers said, they wanted the boy they had in class before medicines were given: but, our son is in a No talk against wife, battered husband situation. Well, we have been married 39+ years, farm family,45 acre Pumpkin Patch, Farm other crops up to 2000 acre. We have a daughter & son-in-law with 3 sons. So, a total of 6 GRANDchildren & their ages are 7,9,10,11,12,15. And really think with The Lord God as my witness; if (we) didn't have the Lord God , I would be having to RUN. Any Sound Advice???What would you do???