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My wife and I live in a full service luxury apartment complex.

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My wife and I live in a full service luxury apartment complex. Has full Amenities - swimming pool, spa, gym the works. My daughter and I are really been butting heads, she's been very disrespectful and we don't like each other very much right now. She asked my wife if she could have her birthday party on the amenities floor in a few weeks. should we allow her to have this party? I don't think we should but wife is going ahead and having it anyway, Please - give me your opinion
Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.

It is always a difficult decision to allow a child to have something they want when you are dealing with a child who is being disrespectful to you. Giving your daughter the chance to have something she wants seems to reward her for her behavior. But what may help is to see her behavior separate from her desire to have her birthday at your place.

Letting your daughter have her birthday at your place may help your situation in two ways. One, it is a kind gesture that allows you to show your daughter that although you disagree with her right now, your affection and love for her overrides any disagreement you have with each other. And as a parent, you can show her that your love for her will never change no matter what happens between you both. If you would choose not to let her have the party, it may just create more anger and drive a bigger wedge between you both, which will not help you resolve the conflict and may even hurt your chances of reconciling.

Two, by letting your daughter have her birthday at your place, it may help her be open to talking to you about the issue between you both. She will see that you are willing to be kind and she may take the next step to repair the conflict between you. She may feel thankful to you for what you have done and see that her behavior has not been respectful towards you.

If you do decide to let her have the party, be sure to continue to work on the conflict between you both. If it seems to difficult to resolve, try counseling. It may help to have a few sessions with a therapist so there is someone to help you both see each other's point of view and resolve the conflict once and for all.

I hope this has helped you,
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Thank you very much for the positive rating and bonus. I appreciate it!

My best to you and your family,

Customer: replied 3 years ago.

Thank You ....I'll give it a try - however, she not a child she's 27 and I'm 65

You're welcome!

I understand from what you described that she is an adult. I only meant child as in she is your child.

Customer: replied 3 years ago.

Thank You .......being OLD SCHOOL doesn't help either's a very different world

It is, I agree. It is like learning a whole new langauge in dealing with the younger generations!

Customer: replied 3 years ago.

Thank You - you've very helpful -

You are very welcome! Take care.


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