Hello I believe I can help you with your concerns
I am sorry that you are going through this. Divorce is usually a tough process, but it appears that your wife is making extremely more difficult for you
The good news is that because the declarations are getting thrown out by the judge on a routine basis from what you are telling me, that means the judge is probably annoyed with the tactics that your wife is employing and that goes in your favor
In my opinion I do not believe that her level of deception is sophisticated and most likely the judge is seeing right through it
Her strategy is basically to report one lie and have her friends back up the lie with pseudo-support. So she is using her friend's declarations as collateral information of the original lie, but this is a flawed tactic because collateral information has to come from a neutral source to be considered relevant to the judge.
In legal terms what she is doing by using her friends is hearsay most likely, which is why the judge dismissed the declerations
Yes. That is exactly what she is doing. I like the circular reasoning explanation.