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Thank you very much for your answer.
Sorry for a late reply.
Well, I've been checking his behavior to see if he is the kind of person who does what he does to anybody else. So far, he never stood so close to anyone else, even when he was busy cooking with other women. I don't know if he never blushes to somebody else or not but he tends to look into my eyes when we talk (both in front of others and one-on-one), but that may be the way he is. He never mimics other members' gestures because all he does when he is talking in front of others is to mimic my gestures such as scrutching one shoulder(I notice that I do this gesture because he is doing this gesture. So I started checking if he mimics other gestures of mine, and noticed he mimics every single gesture of mine and I was really surprised or even scared).
Some things are what he does to anyone, such as sitting near a new member and talking to them at first(but he always comes next to me for whatever reason even if he sits far from me), and he seems to be a little bit self-conscious when talking to anyone so this may be the reason why he blushes when he talks to me.
Shouldn't I tell my feelings to the psychologist himself?
I want to know how he really feels about me.
By the way, I used to have transference feelings for my therapist (too). This went away without discussing this with him because I forced myself to get a boyfriend in real life(It didn't work out though). I don't think this therapist is the perfect person to discuss my feelings for the psychologist because when I was having sexual feelings for the therapist but never talked about it, he seemed to kind of notice how I feel about him and he sat with this legs open or take off his jacket in front of me and these gestures kind of aroused me more(but didn't happen anything).
At least the therapist has never brought this subject up and acts as if nothing was there.
Do I need to discuss this too with the therapist or do I need to change therapists? Honestly I'm a little hesitant to discuss this matter to him because he did what he did.
Yes, do I need to tell my therapist the reason why I want to change therapists?
And do you think a female therapist is better for me?
No you do not have to tell your therapist anything if you do not want to.
A female therapist might be a good choice given what you have been through with the two male therapists you have dealt with.
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Ok, Again, thank you so much for your answers.
I now feel able to cope with my feelings for the psychologist and to move forward for a better relationship.