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What you are experiencing seems to me to be a woman who is suffering from depression. Depression drains you energy, saps your enthusiasm and will, and makes people feel that life is hardly worthwhile. Individuals find it hard to concentrate, have low self-worth, and appeared fatigued and without motivation.
Furthermore, they sometimes self-medicate by drinking or taking illicit substances.
Perhaps there are stressors or insurmountable problems in her life, or perhaps other reasons for her to be acting this way.
She would do well to be physically examined for biological reasons and perhaps a physician or psychiatrist might consider giving her antidepressant medication.
I wish her and you great success and shall keep you both in my prayers.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
i feel depression may be a good part of her feeling this way. She has said she feels she has had a 'hard life' so far and she wants things to turn around, and I would like to help her to do this.
She has also given up drinking recently altogether as she feels one or two drinks are hard to stop at.
If depression is the main cause due to things in her life previously then how can I help her to feel better now, obviously avoiding medication (anti-depressants) if possible?!
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I have another book as well.
She can achieve remarkable success with therapy.
I hope that this helps you and gives you positive direction . Please let me know.
I shall contiue to keep the both of you in my prayers.