nother taxing week. If you'll remember my family is completely dysfunctional. My sister left, went back to LA, and it was tense when she left since she was already criticizing how i'm dealing w/ my dads situation.
Now, however, we have a new event that occurred. I was driving to work and got a text from her saying " um where is Brandon(my sons) gift card I got him for his new job". I cant believe you spent it?.. I was like. uh. what are you talking about..
then remembered. Oh crap. I had picked up the mail last Friday, and since Brandon stays at his legal fathers home a couple days a week. The few pieces of mail that I had gotten for him. His college bill, bank statement and this card. with my sisters writing on it came in the mail, and I shoved it in the box in the back of my car. ( which is where I keep my to do, or pressing things to do) since i'm a traveling nurse my car is my second home.
Now, I do have a host of thank you cards at work, for this reason.
My sister EVERYTIME she sends the kids something, if they don't send her a thank you card withing 48 hours makes a huge to do.. saying.. under the breath snyde comments like. "your kids never send thank you cards, so why would anyone mail them anything" .. I never even got a thank you for your kids's x mas presents.. blah blah blah.
Last x mas I sent her flowers from them just so she'd shut up about it.
So, when I saw the card in the mail. ( no return address, but knew it was from her, because it said " congratulations" on it, in her writing and felt hard like gift card in it. I sent a " thank you card" from my son Brandon. simply saying thank you for the card.
(note,.. this was wrong of me to do I suppose) and my son does need to learn to send his own thank you cards. ( hes 18). but I just didn't want to hear the shit that I constantly hear from her and my mom about how crappy my kids are. (note... one is an architect, and the other majoring in biology 4.0 students.. and great great kids).
At any rate, returning to driving to work and getting the text about the gift card.. now i'm like.. crap.. I have to tell her that I didn't give him the card, and it's in the back of my car.
so that's what I did
, said, I didn't give it to him, its in the back of my car.
this prompted her series of name calling. you are such an f'ing liar, theif, I cant believe you've stooped this low, you are a thief, I thought you would have changed, turned your life around, but you make the same mistakes you've always made. you've stooped to your lowest low, broke my trust.. I just sat there like. what the heck.. but knowing her.. this is HER!. So she starts demanding that I pull over in the middle of the highway and take a picture of the card. I'm like.. um. no. i'm not going to do that.. I've told you what occurred and if you don't believe me i'm sorry. Get to work. try to work my day. but the whole day now, is interrupted with e mails, and texts etc, that continue all day long.. liar, theif... etc..
mentally exhausting, finally turned off my phone, came home, told my fiancé what happened and he's like lets give Brandon the card, and then send her a picture of it. I'm like. NOOO!! that is ridiculous. We are NOT sending a picture..
but what does he do. sends a picture of the card, and then envelope anyway. Now my fiancé and I are bickering. She gets the picture, and immediately starts saying that the card is forged, it's not her signature, as a matter of fact, it's not the same gift card.. liar, theif.. etc.I go to bed with her and my fiancé texting behind my back about this or that.. and sleep
next morning. another e mail. she has blown up the picture he has sent her and written on it the innacuracies.. Its not her postage machine, it's not her handwriting. its a different card.. etc.
My fiancé finally says listen with the upcoming wedding (she is maid of honor). can we just put this aside.. and drop it.. He HAS the gift card.. done.
No,, I /we go through another day of texting. e mailing.. she is right , we are wrong. she didn't mail it, it's not her writing.. im a theif, and a liar..
try to work.. stressed again by the texts/ e mails. now affecting my work. Block her e mail address, and turn phone off at work, but she continues to have this battle w/ my fiancé over who is right. Finally she got to apologize on day 2.. just saying she thinks its wrong that I sent the thank you card from Brandon (I agree also.. ). and she agrees to drop it.
Until... day 3.. wake up, and it starts all over again. same thing. she is right / we are wrong.. etc..
* inserting in here that 12 years ago. I had a problem with prescription meds, went to rehab, and did have a theft charge during that time*.... have made HUGE changes in my life, and am in a fantastic place right now.. Every time something according to her goes wrong.. She brings this up.. how i'm never going to change, how i'm once a theif always a theif..
So now, I've uninvited her from the wedding.. and she sent a final e mail