My son is 19 years old. For the last six years, he had Chronic Fatigue Syndrome which disabled him so badly that he could not attend regular school and was bedridden most of the time. I was his sole caregiver.
In January of 2012, our doctor told us that this would likely be lifelong. This depressed both of us, so I decided to take a risk and take him on a holiday to Costa Rica. I worried that he would "crash" and become more depressed spending the entire two weeks in a hotel room, but to our surprise, he recuperated!!! He said that he felt normal! So, I took him to Costa Rica, eight months later, for a five month stint, to see if that would knock the illness right out of him (he had regressed back into the CFS immediately upon return to Canada). Well, it worked!! We have been home 3 months and he seems to be cured!!
Those six years of illness were an incredible hardship for both my son and I. We both lost many frienships and many people did
not understand what we were enduring and the isolation that it created was severe.
Anyway, when we returned from Costa Rica, we went to visit our best friends. Lori and Murray had been my friends for 31 years. We were aunts and uncles to one another\s children and our wills provided that the children would go to one another upon death. We were like family.
During that visit, an argument occurred between Lori and I. She lamented for a few years now about worry that her eldest son might have a drinking problem; drinking while doing homework; drunk while riding his bicycle around town. His name isXXXXX had told my son that he wanted to take my son out to get him drunk! I told her that I was worried. She lambasted me (it actually felt like bullying
), totally disregarding my feelings and views. I told her that I did not want this to happen; that his father had a drinking problem and I did not want my son to follow suit AND he had just recuperated from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and I was very concerned that getting drunk could compromise his immune system and send him hurtling back into CFS! She said some very mean things and totally disregarded my views. I ended the friendship.
In ending it, it was agreed that I could still have contact with her husband (also my good friend) and her sons, and that they could still see my son. Well, I have phoned the boys and they have not returned my call and I emailed my friend;s husband and he has not responded either.
I could use some words of wisdom here. I am feeling very hurt, betrayed, confused, etc.