Thank you very much. I forgot to mention that I have 2 boys by my first wife. When this first started, I was also upset about them going. However, I realized that this was their Grandmother and they had every right to stay in touch with her. My second wife and I have a daughter. She is also invited along with my wife. I am really at my wits end on this. What triggered it this time was the fact that one day I went out and brought in the mail. I noticed an envelope that said my first wifes family name on it. It was a thank you for attending my first wifes niece's graduation party. Now I feel my wife has gone behind my back. Needless to say, this has really started something. I don't want to really say she lied to me, but she had to have told me she was going somewhere else when she really was going to this party. I hate to think my wife has lied to me..should I?