Hello, I have an ongoing situation with my mother and I finally decided to reach out for help in seeking answers to see if my mom has a mental illness. All my life I have had to tip toe around her never saying or bringing up anything negative about my childhood or feelings about it. She on the other hand can yell, hang up on me and pretty much do or say what she wants. She does not like social situations and resents anybody attending a function calling them freeloaders and shameless. When I was younger she expected me to be loyal to her to a fault; by not speaking to people she was mad at, raising my kids according to her believes and saying things that would cut down my own choices for living. The reason I'm so concerned now is because her health is in pretty bad shape. I have tried to have her live with me but all she does is show me how miserable she is and what my family is not doing for her and all of heard is how much she wants to die. She has tried in front of me to stab herself with a knife, tell me in detail about how she plans to kill herself and bounces back from happy to hating life,,,especially men. She will not be honest with the doctor about her symptoms and telling him what is really going on with her. She will tell me later "I didn't tell the doctor this but I was bleeding but didn't want to stay longer in the hospital. Or I know I have cancer and will die soon. She has also never been empathetic when I'm ill, her answer is usually I have the same thing or I'm sicker than you are. Any mention of what she did to us as children gets met with soon I will die and be out of your life..I hear that all the time!!! I'm to a point that I don't want to deal with her anymore but I know she needs more assistance now because of her health. Help!