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I can imagine how distressing this situation must be for you. You are being honest with yourself and this is a tremendous trait, first of all, that you have the ability to do so and also it is the most encouraging aspect of the situation. You are an honest person and you don't want to hurt someone else.
And this is actually the key to my answer to you that you need to consider and think about.You are torn between wanting to connect with someone else and not wanting to hurt someone else and be hurt. And so the stress between these two conflicting desires has led you to the worst of both: you have started to connect with these women and then you've pulled the plug and sabotaged the relationships to avoid pain and causing pain.
The antidote is honesty. You must be honest from the start. Vascular dementia can be slow to develop if steps are taken; financial difficulties in the past are in the past if steps have been taken.
You need to be honest with this lady from the start and by doing this you will avoid that debilitating anxiety that will overcome you and threaten the relationship and lead to the self sabotaging behavior. Treat her with respect and yourself with respect. If your past is something that scares her off, well, you want to know that before you get serious anyways. If your future is something that scares her off, the same is true: you want this known so you can move on to meet the right lady.
Remember: the truth allows you and her to know if you're right for each other. And if not, then it allows you to move on and find someone who is right for you and someone for whom you are right.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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