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Good, hi. May I ask you a few questions?
Is the psychologist seeing these people as a couple?
So the psychologist does not know that these two people are a couple?
May I ask if you are one of the parties?
How long have you been seeing this psychologist and how long has your partner?
Thank you for answering my questions. I will begin typing my answer for you now.
Psychologists may not disclose to their clients the identity of other people they are seeing professionally, nor may they discuss any issue or details of a therapy session with anyone but their client. There is only one exception and that is in the case of a client being suicidal or homicidal in which case the psychologist has what is called a "duty to warn." To see you or not would be a personal ethical decision for this therapist, but I believe most therapists would be very uncomfortable seeing you both. There is another option. .....continuing.....
Since your partner has only seen this psychologist a few times, she could see the two of you for couples therapy and under that format, meet with each of you individually for a few sessions. This is quite common practice. Yes, it would help me to understand if you will tell me the purpose.
Sorry, I am prohibited from communicating with you outside of the Just Answer format. Are you wanting to see this psychologist out of concern for your partner?
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX or extreme emotional abuse, therapists rarely tell their clients to break up with someone or tell them what to do, period. However, this psychologists first ethical obligation is to her present client, your partner, and I seriously doubt if she would agree to meet with you without your partner knowing. Have you asked your partner if you could go to a therapy session with her?
You certainly have a long relationship together which deserves couples therapy before deciding to end it. I am a Marriage and Family Therapist and have worked with hundreds of couple, married or not, over many years of practice. I would advise against going behind your partner's back and trying to see her psychologist; I think it will only backfire. I would ask your partner again if you could go with her to a therapy session; she can only say no. I would also strongly suggest asking your partner to go to a few sessions with a couples therapist, other than her psychologist, before ending the relationship. I usually contract with my couples for six sessions. You may go to www.therapistlocator.net or www.psychologytoday.com to search for couples therapists where you live, an MFT (Marriage and Family Therapist) would be preferable. Do you have any additional questions for me?