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We have discussed this relationship before, less than a week ago. You were having some rocky moments with her, and were already turning away from her. You were leaving her emotionally because she is a very difficult and unstable person, with a history of failed relationships.
She has been suffering from an emotional problem or personality disorder and has been under treatment for over a decade, yet still seems to be unable to function well.
She didn't fully trust you for several incidents that you mentioned (KY jelly, guarding your phone, and a stray hair not hers); you never explained them and they were probably innocent. You didn't talk about her reaction to them or your explanation to her.
These details, however, are petty. What is evident is that she has very low self-esteem. Perhaps she was abused when young. This lack of self-confidence and esteem seems to inform her life and lifestyle. She is insecure. She is attractive but has to flaunt it.
She needs someone in her life and so she takes on the next available one and parades her life in front of everyone - to protect her own low self-image.
You are participating in this drama, and your feelings are very hurt. You are not over her yet, and perhaps she is not over you.
You have been typing for 20 minutes.
Or we have lost our connection.
If I do not hear from you in one minute I shall save our chat for later.
If you are typing you can send what you already wrote and continue.
Was looking for a different moderator,well I did explain very clearly about those things my problem this morning is returning to work,just having trouble putting on that fake smile while she can just act like nothing happened .saw her thursday and friday and its making it hard..just struggling this morning
Just do your best to ignore her.
How else may I help you?
You don't need a fake smile. Just acknowledge her if you have to pass her. Don't pretend anything.
emergency phone call thank you didnt have a chance to read your full reply and no disrespect to you with the different moderator comment just there was a picture of someone else,will let you know how it goes .dont wish her no harm but you always try to go back and make things better instead of doing it when you had the chance..I am trying to understand someone who i believed was whole and complete and she is not..thank you
it says expert is typing or our we finished