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You have lost some self-confidence in what has happened before in the breakups and are suffering a bit of social anxiety, but nothing you cannot overcome.
You are so afraid of failure now that you tighten up and have lost the ability to just be your old self and not care if a girl is going to fall for you right away. You are so afraid of rejection that you can't freely move.
It will take some focused effort on your part to do this. Someone can't say a few words to you and you will be back to normal. But you can go through a process that you can do yourself, with proper guidance, and without having to go to a therapist for a series of costly sessions.
I strongly suggest that you purchase this wonderful workbook of lessons and exercises that has worked for every client of mine that has used it, and it should work for you. You know what self-confidence is and you are not coming from a difficult place.
Here it is. Click the link and you can get to it to buy it on line.
This will work. You just have to do it.
I hope that I have answered your question. Please remember to leave me positive feedback for my professional time and effort. I love to help others and that is why I do this for a living. Thank you so much.
I do not have any doubts that if you follow this program you will do well and restore your self-confidence and self-esteem to normal.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC