Good morning Tony, My name is XXXXX XXXXX X am a mental health counselor. I would like to assist you with your question.
If you don't mind I would like to ask you a few questions to enable me to better assist you. How long have you been going on online dating sites? Do you go to any other sites that involve women?
How did you meet your girlfriend and how is the relationship outside of the online stuff? If you want to talk with me further about this, please just reply to my message and I will respond as soon as I see your reply. Thank you for contactig Just Answer. Ja`Ree
Hello JaRee, In fact I met my girlfriend on an online dating site as well, I have been going onto the sites for the past 3 years of our relationship, our relationship outside of the internet is great I believe, she tells me she is happy and i'm happy as well. There are times that i browse craigslist and have sent messages just to see if I can get a reply but never intend on meeting with the women if they were to reply. I have never physically cheated on my girlfriend but i know there is a thing of emotional cheating. When I go to the sites i feel a boost of confidence about myself because of all attention. But my girlfriend gives me plenty of attention as well. This is my first serious relationship that has lasted longer then a Year.
Things I have tried are just to Ignore the webpages and not go on them I have never tried to seek out the help of a professional. Many times when I do look at these sites I am working either opposite hours either 3rd shift or currently i'm out of town working as well.
I find that i check the sites when i'm bored as well
I can see that you are truly concerned about losing your girlfriend and yes, this is something that can cause that to happen. I am not sure that you have thought about what this might be doing to her self esteem, however, I am sure it is not building a safe feeling in the relationship. I do believe it would be good for you to talk with a counselor on a regular basis for a little while to help you discover where this need for attention is coming from and to assist you with developing skills needed to help you move past all of this and move forward in the real relationship with your girlfriend. Would you consider finding someone to talk with professionally. I would gladly assist you with finding someone in your area. I will be waiting to hear from you. Ja`Ree
Yes, I have talked to my girlfriend and she is very supportive of my going to seek assistance, I have also checked out another online program from another therapist that told me to check out candeo , do you recommend this site? have you heard any negative things about it? or would you still recommend seeing a professional in person?
I have not heard anything at all about this site, so I cannot recommend either way. However, I do believe that meeting with someone in person is very effective because you develop a therapeutic relationship that enables the counselor to more personalize the sessions and for you to become more comfortable enabling you to work on whatever comes out of each session as far as what is going on with you concerning the online dating as well as giving you support, encouragement and positive feedback. I develop very close therapeutic relationships with my clients as do most clinicians causing the client to feel safe enough to share whatever is going on for them. Many times a client does not know why they do what they do and the time we spend together gives me some insight and allows me to help them find the answers that lie within them. Does that make sense?
yes it does thank you, XXXXX XXXXX i would like your assistance in finding a professional in my area if possible, I live in Puyallup WA if there are any in the area i would love the assistance
Let me look for you. I'll be right back.
http://www.sunrisecounselingservices.com/ (NNN) NNN-NNNNIf my answer helped you please complete rating survey to enable me to know how best to serve our customers. Thank you for contacting Just Answer. It was my pleasure to assist you. Ja`Ree
This one looks like a good one that will be able to assist you with what you need. May I check back in with you in a couple of weeks to see how you are doing?
yes that would be great, but i won't be able to go until a week from now as i'm currently out of state working
thank you for your help
It was truly my pleasure and I will check in with you in a couple of weeks. please complete rating survey to enable me to know how best to serve our customers. Thank you again for contacting Just Answer. Ja`Ree