Hi! I'll be glad to be of help with this issue.
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. You are clearly an intelligent and sophisticated person, who understands the emotional and psychological forces that drive life. And yet, when it comes to eating, it is as if all of this understanding and intelligence disappears and a primal need takes over.
This, of course, is the experience that is called emotional eating. There are two commonalities in emotional eating (EE) that can be easily identified: a self sabotaging drive and a need for comfort, for self-soothing.
Soothing is not just a need during infancy and childhood. We all need to be comforted and soothed throughout our lifetimes. The goal during "normal" passage from early childhood to childhood and then adolescence and then young adulthood, etc. is to gain the ability to self-soothe. To be able to define and choose activities that will comfort us is a skill. Young children may begin with a blankie or some other object, we then graduate to activities that are self soothing and comforting: lying under the covers, reading a book, etc. We begin to identify certain activities and certain actions as soothing and they have that effect on our emotions.
Tip: let's interrupt here for a quick tip. Soothing and comfort are terms that describe a passage from an anxious state, some form of tension, to a relaxed state, some form of rest state. Often, internal body mechanisms (the normal up and down of our blood sugar, for example) can create a tension state in us. The tip, then, is to instead of reaching for the pancakes, to go to a quiet place and take a nap or read a favorite book that will ease the breathing and create relaxation. Naps are the best...
Okay. Often, the anxiety/tension state (we're not talking major, we're talking about small somatic states) interferes with our plans, schedules, goals, etc. We tend to ignore them and push them aside. They then work in semi or subconscious areas of our selves. Meaning, they grow. And this is where the self sabotaging of ourselves comes in.
We begin a battle that has played forever inside ourselves: I deserve vs. I should. I should always loses. Why?
Because I should is part of the cognitive side of us (goals, plans, strategies). I deserve is part of the emotional subconscious part of us. That is the part that was neglected. And when it is neglected it causes psychological "pain". And we jump. In this case, we jump to the kitchen and make pancakes!
So, the key is to not deny that original need to have comfort and self soothing, to find activities/objects, etc. that will give that relaxation and comfort. When that's done, then Weigh Watchers will be much more successful for you.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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