Ive spoken to another expert about childhood trauma and injury caused in a housefire that was the result of my fathers alcoholism - ive had ptsd for years and have been dealing with this in therapy. as a result of therapy I was able to get a lot of facts about this event that was never forthcoming from my parents - due to this a conversation opened with my sister who disclosed sexual abuse by my father. I had just had enough of how much we were all harmed and I called the police, now my dad has been charged and pleaded quilty I am so conflicted and feel very very anxious about this.
Hi. Welcome back. We have spoken a few times before.
I am sorry to hear of your anxiety over this. You have been through so much and have been dealing with all of the emotions from over the years and now to learn of sexual abuse has to feel overwhelming for you.
I am hoping you can look at it in this way....reporting him was something you absolutely needed to do....as an adult now you can advocate for yourself and keep yourself and your sister safe and you did just that by reporting him.
I know it is hard to see, but this is great progress for you. You were helpless in the house fire and also as a young child suffering neglect and could not advocate for yourself and now you can.
Yes it may be painful and you may have anxiety, but I am truly hoping you can see it in a way that highlights the power you now have over your life and your safety.
You are free....free from neglect, free from keeping silent and free from the night of the fire. He chose to behave in the manner in which he did with your sister and that is his responsibility and not yours....you stood up for her and for you.
I see you are offline, but please let me know your thoughts.