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1) Please kindly clarify one thing that you said she had a heated argument / altercation with her parents 1 month back but until 2 weeks back she was still very much for the relationship , so there is this confusion regarding the gap of 2 weeks between these two points , how was her behavior during this period ?
2) Also please throw some light on the fact that whether the altercation with her parents revolved around your relationship ?
3) How is her professional and social life , are these domains also compromised ?
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Thanks for the inputs..
Well after reading your replies it seems like the stressful event that took place between her and her parents have pushed her into depression as is evident from the hallmark features of depression she is displaying such as loss of ambition , low mood , lack of self confidence , feeling of despair and hopelessness , helplessness and worthlessness, her inter-personal relations , social and professional lives all having been compromised, procrastination on her part , lacking zeal for good things in life.
So it is her depression that is influencing her actions because her mind is at the moment clogged with negative thoughts along with her self confidence being at an all time low and this invariably is reflecting poorly on your relationship.
So I reckon that you being a concerned partner give her some time and space to rejuvenate , a vacation to a quiet , serene place will be a welcome gift for her to un-burden herself from the stress and if possible get her started on a stress relieving drug like Lexapro ( escitalopram ) at modest dose of 10 mg / day , to be taken for a few weeks so that she can come out of this depressive phase and gets back to her previous life with you being in the picture as you have been in the past.
Also please do not get into a panic mode yourself after hearing her current muddled take on the relationship future as she is not saying this at her own will but is being made to say this as she is under lot of stress and in depression so this way she just tries to vent out her frustration which has been mounting on her since that day. So please be supportive , tried to remain calm with her and offer her more time to heal , I am positive that she will soon come out of this with the help of the drug mentioned above and with time passing by with her issues both personal and professional resolving in during this course of time.
If your relationship continues to deteriorate despite your efforts of giving her time and space , use of stress relieving drug as mentioned above , then I reckon seeking relationship counseling shall be the most useful ploy to unmask her true sentiments and emotions about the future of this relationship which will in a way help you to plan your future accordingly.
I hope this helps .
Wish you all the best.
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Yes definitely reassuring her time and again will not only give her more strength to endure this tough phase but also it will reflect good on you for being a true moral support at the time of adversity and this shall only make her value your presence in her life even more which shall invariably strengthen your bond with her.