I have been abused mentally, sexually, physically and verbally by my brother since my first memories approximately age 5. He would crawl into my bed when I was small and ride me. I would be sore and rashed all the time. My mother caught him once, told him to go back to bed and called me a cruel name. My brother is 4 years older than I. He was verbally, mentally and physically abusive also. He would tell others, friends, neighbors that there was something wrong with me and not to believe anything I said. He would verbally abuse me in front of others all the time. I was always trying to avoid him in school because of his bullying
and abusiveness towards me and others. I was embarrassed of his behavior.
Once at age 16, I pulled into our driveway and made dust. My brother had just washed his car. He pulled me from my car, rubbed my face in the gravel/stone and kicked me. I crawled to the house and layed in my room crying and sobbing uncontrollably. His girlfriend at the time, now his wife, came in and apologized for his behavior. This is the type of treatment I have always had to tolerate from him. His verbal abuse was always telling me I was a f'n this and f'n that. At 53, that still continues. I have watched him punch my father, verbally and physically abuse my parents and myself. My mother never told him this was unacceptable or not to treat me like he did
. She told me several times not to tell my dad. When he was 30 he became a cocaine addict. He robbed my parents home more than once, did whatever he had to do to get drugs and money. He manipulated my parents, his wife and destroyed his daughters childhood. He was still very abusive to me unless he wanted money or to borrow my car. When he was "high" he was nice. But when he wasn't, he was his mean, miserable, abusive self.
The abuse has gone on for all of my life. I am 53 now with a very loving and chistian husband and three sons. I have spent my life making sure they did not follow in my brothers footsteps. I have kept my distance when I could.
In January, he found out that I had tried to speak to my mom about the abuse and several thousands of dollars worth of jewelry that was missing, my husband and I had purchased her over several years. He also found out that she had saved a substantial amount of money in her savings. In a rage, he took her to the bank and had her take my name off her account and put his name on it. He then moved my mom out of the home we purchased for her, and into a home beside him. When we try to visit my mother he physically attacks my family. He has had harrassment charges put on him twice now. I believe that he has told my mom he will kill us if she opens the door. He now goes around town to family and friends telling everyone that he had to move my mom out because we were stealing from her. I have not had contact with my 86 year old mom for 5 months. Just more abuse in a different form. I have tried to self help by reading my bible and listening to cd's on abuse. My brother has some form of mental abuse and should have been stopped a long time ago. My mother is an enabler and so is his wife, despite the abuse inflicted on them. So many lives have been destroyed by this man, and he continues. Everytime he destroys my property and we call the police, they say,"prove it." What is wrong with him??? How can I stop him?? He is trying to make me look like the bad one, when in fact, I'm the good one.