I'm scared............back in October I had tummy pain due to a hernia and ended up having surgery to fix it. Now, I have something else wrong with my tummy and I'm scared to go to the doctor again. Tummy touch is the worst possible thing to me. How do I prepare and make it through a doctor's visit where I know tummy touch is for sure?
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I am glad to hear from you, but not glad to hear that you have to go back to the doctor.
I know how scary this can be even without the tummy touch. You have a phobia of it and the best way to get rid of phobias is using a technique called Exposure and Response Prevention.
I though of a game that you can play that might help you prepare for this.
Get a toy doll of some sort to dress up as a doctor, and with your alters play at giving you a tummy exam with tummy touch. Maybe baby can say "I'm scared" and someone else plays the doctor and say, in a happy tone, "This won't hurt at all. Don't be scared.'
Do this role-playing and it can get you psychologically prepared for what lies ahead.
I know that this sounds a bit silly and juvenile, but you are a good sport. I would do it myself and have a good time. I keep the inner child with me at all times. :)
A second thing that you can do is to ask the doctor, ahead of time, if he could give you an anxiety pill, such as Valium or Xanax, about 1/2 hour before the exam, so that you would lose a lot of the anxiety.
Finally, I would get hold of this workbook (available as a book mailed to your or on Kindle as well so you could get it loaded onto your computer minutes from now). It is a great workbook for working on anxiety and phobias and would prove very useful to you, I am sure.
May prayers are with you all and I shall be thinking about you.
I'm sorry I was not online to chat with you. I appreciate the advice and will take it to heart. I will try this and see how it goes. Then, I will be sure to reply and let you know how things go.
Last Monday I went to the doctor and she had to touch my tummy. She thought it was another hernia and sent me back to the surgeon, who also had to touch my tummy. The surgeon agreed with my other doctor that it was probably another hernia and it needed repairing. However, he ordered an ultrasound of the area to check. I had the ultrasound on Friday. There was lots and lots of tummy touching then. Results of the ultrasound came back clear with no signs of a hernia. But my tummy still bumps out and so I will go back to the surgeon tomorrow morning to chat about what it could possibly be...............I'm scared. Scared of having even more tummy touch tomorrow. Baby was out for the appointments on Monday as well as the appointment Friday. I'm scared she won't let the doctor touch her tummy tomorrow because it's too much. What should I do?
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it's Toes. We had our appointment this morning. It went relatively well.... I don't like tea that much, so we didn't try that but we did bring along Baby's doll to help her. Kelley (the doll) is a huge comfort to Baby and even just knowing Kelley was with her was good, even though I wouldn't allow Baby to bring Kelley out. Baby was super scared. She didn't want the doctor touching her tummy, but I made her behave like a big girl and let the doctor touch. He basically told us that there doesn't seem to be any need for surgery at this time. He said he could feel something there but wasn't sure what it is. So, he told us to come back in 6 months unless something drastically changes between now and then. It was only after he left the room that I allowed Baby to cry. Did I do the right thing in forcing her to be big or should I have let her express herself and refuse the doctor's touch?