Girl age 12 - only child from Dad and Mom who divorced when she was age 4.
Biological dad remarried. He and new wife live in Maryland and she brings two boys ages 8 and 5.
Mom remarried and husband has no additional kids. They live in DC.
Custody was 60 - 40 to the mom. Dad sued in court and made it 50 - 50 and reduced child support.
Girl seems to side with the dad and loves playing soccer with him. He was let go from a real estate developer firm. Mom is a college professor and is pretty strict.
Mom and husband recently got an overseas assignment for work and daughter chose to stay in Maryland with the dad and step mom.
Previously the daughter played flute, did
karate and had math tutor lessons.
Now the daughter quit flute, quit karate (just short of getting her black belt) and has no math tutor and slipping grades. She received several D's on the last report card yesterday and has also dyed her blonde hair to blue.
In the last phone call with the mom, the daughter was disrespectful and uncaring. When the mom started exclaiming to her daughter that her current behavior was unacceptable, the father took away the phone and that was the last communication. She also doesn't check her email anymore (probably has a new email address).
What is going on with the daughter and how does her mom get through to her?