i want to chat...please?
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I don't know exactly when was the first approval, but I am pretty sure it probably started in high school. When I first liked this guy, I started to learn that my self-esteem depended on him. That was freshman year. I would be thinking of him as if he was there, I would try to be good at things and show it to him so he could see I was a good person and I would want him to observe me. My parents treated me ok, however my mom would always copy me so much and would steal my swag. I started to feel as if I did not have an identity. I am thinking that my sister, bullying at school, my mom was the cause of my low self-esteem.
I am not talking to my boyfriend right now. I really want to talk to him, but first I want to have my self-esteem good.I am kinda forcing myself not to talk to him. I want to be confident and not be so attached to him. It hurts not to talk to him but i am really trying..
Hello there, I am sorry I am missing you online. I think your mother trying to act like you has probably had a negative affect in your self esteem. I am sorry your were bullied when you were young. You did not deserve that, and you learned how to please others to be safe. The way to improve self esteem is to find something that you really like to do something that is only for you. I am not sure what your hobbies are such as art, writing, helping younger girls, sports. I think that finding something that has meaning to you something away from how others feel about you.
Can you tell me 3 personality traits that you love about yourself? What makes you yourself and different that others? We can start there. Then, I want to give you an affirmation. "I love myself and I deserve all the wonderful things that come my way". I am strong and confident.
As you begin to use the methods and other methods that you may think of to improve your self-esteem, you may notice that you have some feelings of resistance to positive feelings about yourself. This is normal. Don't let these feelings stop you from feeling good about yourself. They will diminish as you feel better and better about yourself. To help relieve these feelings, let your friends know what you are going through. Do things to relax, such as meditating or taking a nice warm bath.
You can write the affirmation in a place you see everyday.
Observe your negative thoughts and try to let them go as they come in your head. Replace them with positive thoughts. It will take time but eventually it will work.
You are also a separate person from your mother, I have a feeling that she tried to make you an extention of herself. What are your own dreams? Do you want to travel, create... It is a good time to find out who you are. Nobody can take that away from you. Let me know what you think.
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When I was in high school the girl who was my best friend became a copy-cat of me. She copied my clothes, personality, music, hobbies, hair style...basically EVERYTHING about me. The thing that I hated the MOST was that she would talk to people how I talk to them. It was irritating me!
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I think it is annoying to someone to copy you but if you think about it, she thought you were so cool she tried to be you. I think you have to remember that you are the origional and you have your own style imittation is just that, trying to be someone she is not. If others like her they were not that smart and you want smart people around you. Your identity is your own because she really does not know you your identity and your style will keep changing. I sense you have a good sense of fashion and style and nobody can change that. Your invent your style and people follow is fluttering if you think about it. It is nice to be out of high school right? Now you build your life and those who were cool in high school are nobody now but you keep growing and being you. I have not met too many " High School Queens" that did much in life. Maybe being creative can become a career for you. I say keep creating and let others copy you, you will always do it first.
So think if others try to be me I must be great!
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