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Camille - Moderator
Thank you for considering my thoughts.
I wish you great success in continuing to exercise your keen intellect for your own good and for the good of others.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC
Before I even reviewed your answer, I had already identified the root, and I am working at eliminating it.
It seemed to look more complex and hopeless then it really was, which makes sense considering my negative mindset. I suppose I went to an expert in vein but, oh well. I'll just be happy that the problem doesn't still remain. :)
Considering that I have put obsessive amounts of though into my self image, I feel as though I have considered every possible thing that might have potentially contributed to my negative self image.
With that said, I have already considered the possibility that my parent's lack of praise and or support could be a potential cause towards my negative self image. My Mother and Father where some of the few people who supported me positively, but unfortunately it would seem as though it was not enough to offset the negativity I experienced, but fortunately enough, none of this is set in stone.
As far as I know, that is the way it was. I am simply going based on what I remember, and from what I do remember, it seems as though they we're perhaps the most supportive and encouraging people I had in my life, but the opposing negativity I experienced was so severe, I had developed a very toxic mindset, where I simply refused to believe that I was loved, cared for, important, in anyway or by anyone. Even though my parent's loved me and expressed that love to me, I still today, seem to refuse to believe that deep down they love me, even though my conscious mind KNOWS it to be true..
It's like a girl, who's heart was broken by Men, countless times. After enough repetition, she learns to trust no one with her heart, even if the right guy that she is safe to trust, comes along. Each boyfriend is a completely different person from the rest, but based on her experiences with the other Men, she cannot help but feel the same potential danger, with any other man.
Even though it was the bullies that treated me bad and not my parents, the negative experiences iv had with people, has created this deep rooted fear inside me that is objectively applied to EVERY and ANY human being. More so on some, then others.
Thank you for your expert advice on this situation, and I ask that if I make any false statements or presumptions that you are aware of, feel free to correct me. I am not the expert with this, you are.
Thank you. I will check out all of the books you recommended, and I will also try to set aside money to see a therapist. Given the financial situation I am in, it will take time to save up enough money. Unless their is a potential way I can qualify for free therapeutic help.
It's very unfortunate I think that mental health is so under serviced. You simply cannot put a price on a persons mental health, when it is what completely determines the quality of any given persons life.