Hi, I'm 23 years old. I had a break down back in September and I cannot bring my self out of the anger and disgust I have towards my previous boss/cousin.
I quit my job of 2 years at a family business because I was being exploited. On top of that I was living with my father who has anger issues and his mean alcoholic girl friend. My living situation was unbearable. My cousin is CEO and owns the business and my father was my direct boss. I indisputably went above and beyond the call of duty. I worked overtime, did
projects, created streamlined systems for this business. I was chastised for working over time and over applying my self by my boss/ cousin. I would speak to my cousin about my living situation and he would claim to empathize with me.
I was stuck in the house because compensation ( for a 40 hour work week) was not enough to move into project housing (project minimum was $1500 a month). Even though I deserved a raise and was told I would get one (by the companies professional advisory group), it never came. Even though he "sympathized" with me he neglected to pay me a livable wage (I made $1400 a month). At the same time I worked another job as a pizza boy and went to college at night. Which put a lot of stress
on me. A week after the day I was suppose to get a raise, I walked in on my boss who was internet shopping for yachts and explained to him that our department was overwhelmed. He immediately assumed that I said this because, he was caught not working and being frivolous. This man is tax cheat and I had been asking for him to put me on the books for year. After, asking that if he wasn't too busy if could assist our department he became immediately condescending and confrontational (He told me to close the door in a scolding tone). I responded by asking if he new what exploitation was. At this point he became livid and yelled, pushed and kicked me out of the office. My father participated in slamming me into a door and screaming at me. I posed no physical threat to either of them yet they assaulted me. After that I stayed hotels and friends houses so I wouldn't have to be around my father and his nasty alcoholic mother. My entire family was complicit in turning a blind eye to my being exploited. Even though it was acknowledged to be true. Since then I've started my version of their own business/ got a part-time job and continued college. I know that success is the best revenge but, I'm still very bitter. I have not told my father that I started my own company (4 months ago). Yet I would like to for hope that he would be proud. I'm at odds with myself if I should make it known. I have issues trusting my own father. And the cousin I worked for has a history of averting tax law as well as other laws. I was morally appose to him since I started. I have also made that known, gaining the title "golden boy." I know my cousin (who had the business given to him by his mother) is uneducated and quick tempered. I also know that he spent all the money his company made for him on himself. (bought a 2.3 million dollar home, a boat and 3 cars). I saw nothing but the unfairness of this. He has another cousin (35 years old) that works for him doing a job that starts at 30k being paid 23k (for 4 years now) and is living in a trailer with her 80 father (his uncle) that she has to financially support. I was offered 30k to return but declined on the lack of moral and social responsibility; because I knew his character flaws were irreparable. I have issues trusting my father and his side of my family. Yet I still know I have to love them I cant bring my self to think about them in any other light other than being abusive and exploitative. I have a high respect for what is moral and right. Yet this has left me with an empty feeling and resentment towards my cousin and distrust of my own father and his side of the family. I could use a some advice on how to better deal with these strong emotions. My esteem was shattered. I was working on $1.5 million dollars of account while teaching new employees how to do my job (they started at higher pay than me!!!)