Hi! I'll be glad to follow up on Elliott's answer with you.
I can imagine how frustrating this situation must be for you. It would be wonderful if we had a definitive answer to give you about the effectiveness of neurofeedback--or of any treatment--for ADHD. But we don't. The stimulants used as the main form of treatment today, for example, do not have a "standard" form of action in most children. I've seen such great differences in how different children react to the stimulants or even the non-stimulant medications that it is not possible to predict whether medications will help, or how much.
Neurofeedback has a body of research behind it now. But that research is not conclusive. Nor has it been based on large scale studies for the most part. So we don't have the evidence that even medications have to be able to say it is a worthwhile investment of your time and money. However, we do have a lot of anecdotal evidence and a fair amount of research evidence that neurofeedback can improve symptoms in many children with ADHD.
Is this enough for you to make the effort? I can only tell you that if he were my relative, I would make the effort. ADHD that is so severe that the child is non-functional in school might make medications a must. But otherwise, I would want my relatives to try neurofeedback. But there's one caveat:
I would want to interview the practitioners and make sure I have references for them and that they are experienced and that I have a good rapport with them. All of these are important to me in selecting a treatment. So, if you live in an area that's large enough to have practitioners specializing in this, then it is worth the investment as Elliott also recommended, in my opinion.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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