my 23 year old son is very verbally abusive to me. He blames me for everything that happens in his life whereas it is him that makes the bad choices. He is so polite and charming to everyone else and nobody could believe that he treats me this way. He has pushed me into walls, threatened to hit me, calls me a c..t and tells me to f''k off c..t. I cant believe he is acting this way. We have always been very close and everyone says that I am one of the kindest people they have ever met. I try to do the right thing by my son. I have gone out of my way to help him always but it now seems like the more I do for him the more abuse I get. I am terrified of him -he is like a monster. He had a wonderful childhood but all he can talk about is his terrible childhood. Honestly he was the happiest child and he had a magical childhood. I adored him and gave him all my time and energy. I just dont know what to do - I am totally shocked and distraught.
My son does not live with me - he built his own house last year and shares with his girlfriend and 3 of his male friends. He left his job last month even though he has a mortgage and bills. He just doesnt seem to care. I have been doing his accounts but I cant do them anymore as there is no money coming in from him. He is so totally irresponsible. Everytime I go around to his place and bring up the subject of mortgage and bills he goes ballistic and thats when the abuse starts. He screams at me those awful swear words - I cant believe that any son would speak to his mother in this way. Its like he is two people, the one everyone else sees and the one that is specially reserved for me. I cry every night as I am 63 and the stress is making me ill. I just dont know what to do. He is a monster