Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX a good answer. I will go with my instincts and tell him. But, I'm sorry, as I said in my first sentence, I was hoping you could tell me more about the effects of alcohol. Do people do things drunk that they would never do sober? Do they do whatever people ask them? Did I cheat? Or does it not count because I didn't know what I'm doing? I'm looking for some kind of scientific answer to this. If he says this means I subconsciously want to cheat would he be right? To be honest I don't think kissing/sex and love/relationships/commitment are the same thing, and if society didn't think kissing other people was cheating, I might be doing it, I don't know. But I choose not to because I know he doesn't want me to. Also in the 4 years we've been dating there's never been a time I wanted to kiss anyone else. But, in theory, I don't see how it could be damaging to relationships. It seems like it only is because that's what people say.
I'm glad I could help, and I want to make sure I answer the rest of your question. If this has been helpful I'd appreciate it if you would leave me a positive review. Alcohol affects everyone a little bit differently, but it is very commonly associated with impulsive behavior. When people are extremely intoxicated they may be more willing to do things that people ask them, and may also not be in full awareness of the consequences of their actions. Whether or not it counts as cheating is more of a subjective question, and is really up to you and your fiance. Some people may say it doesn't count, other people would say that it does. I agree that there is a big difference between kissing/sex and love/relationships/commitment, but not everyone is able to make that distinction. Perhaps subconsciously you do have some desires to kiss other people if society would perceive it differently, but if you are willing to avoid that because you care about him, then that is a sacrifice that a lot of people make for the sake of the bigger picture of the relationship they are in. In theory, what you are saying makes a lot of sense in terms of what should/should not be damaging in a relationship. However, we are all raised in a society where so much emphasis is placed physical contact/kissing/sex, that is it very hard for people to seperate between that and the more important love/emotional side of relationships. Best of luck with everything, and let me know if I can be of any more help,
Thank you! I am kind of afraid you are just telling me what I want to hear about there being a difference between physical attraction and love and commitment in a relationship, because no one has ever agreed with me on that before! And I've had a therapist I know who was just telling me what I wanted to hear. But he also pretty much said that sexual attraction and love are the same thing. I think he was a horrible therapist though, even if he did give me some good advice.