What happened to my partner? He left me 2 weeks ago, saying that in the past year I acted like a real bitch to him, and that it is all my fault, he doesnt want anything to do with me. That he wants to be in the kids life but doesn't want anything to do with me.
He yells at me, abuses me, has threatened to take the kids from me, withholds all money, has blocked me from everything, including anything to do with the house we have been building as it was under his name, and has even blocked me from facebook. He has threatened a restraining order against me, because I have been calling him and his parents deperately trying to get answers and they all keep hanging up on me and ignoring my calls. And this is all in 2 weeks.
I have 3 kids, my oldest has a different father and my partner even threatened to ring the father of my oldest and give him information so he can gain custody. The thing is I haven't done anything.
The night before he came to the conclusion and left me, he told me how much he loved me, that we are so strong because we have been through so much together, and that nothing will ever happen between us for good.
After a week when he left me, he seemed to "come to" again, and apologised for treating me the way he did and understood that he had to gain my trust back again as I was left so hurt and so betrayed and I couldnt handle going through that again. It lasted two days and then he fell back into his breakdown yet again saying he realised again that he doesn't want to be with me and that this has been a long time coming.
The thing is he has had problems with alcohol for years and although he quit for 9 months last year, he had a relapse one night, got into a fight and lost his job. Ever since then,, its been 5 months now, its like a beast has taken over his body. He has been drinking since, and is so nasty to me, accusing me of things or taking things i say hostily.
Before i realised that he fell back into his breakdown again , i rang him to tell him about something his parents did that i was not happy about but he yelled at me before I could even get it out so I know his reaction wasnt based on what i told him next. He was already hating me again.
Ignoring the outburst I told him about his parents giving my two younger children money for easter and my oldest only a third of that. He called me an ungrateful bitch and it all went downhill from there.
I gave the gifts back to his parents and said that Im not having such discrimination in my house, and they accused me of throwing it back in their face and that my oldest child is not their family so i should be happy they included her to a point and gave her at least something.
I was gobsmacked with their logic.
And now his parents and himself have formed a team and are taking me for my children.
I have never felt so hurt, betrayed and alone. I dont know what I did that was so wrong, and I cant comprehend why my husband is treating me like this. He says his drinking is my fault and that Ive been a bitch for so long that his had enough. Yet, Ive never done anything. He just starting hating me with passion. Like I was dispicable in his eyes. Just out of the blue.
Sure weve had problems, and we have been under incredible amount of stress (a new baby that he barely even knows, building a house, attending court over custody of my oldest child and the court fees that come with that are huge, and we live apart right now while we were waiting for our new house to be completed as we do not get along with each others parents) but it went from love to hate so quickly and with so much force, that it is soul shattering that he sees me like that, for no reason. I was his wive and the only person that supported him through everything. I was by his side every time he relapsed and always there to help him. It breaks my heart that his doing this to me.
Please help. I am so confused and so hurt. His completely destroying my life and I just want my old husband back. The one that would never do this to me. His completely changed. I feel like my old husband has died. What has happened to him and what do I do? I want my old husband to come back to me.