For reasons I've never understood, I'm afraid of children. I mean, literally I cannot be around them. I'm almost 47, have obviously not had children myself because of this aversion, and it's caused me many relationship losses, when good men who already had children presented themselves, but I rejected them for having children. Now I've met the best man ever - we are compatible in every possible way. He has children who are 20, 17, and 14. I know I'm going to cut and run soon if I don't get help for my fear. It would be the biggest mistake of my life. There is no material on this phobia available that I have found. I want to change, but I need help! I'm otherwise financially solid, a homeowner with a great career, many friends, many volunteer causes I'm active with...I'm not antisocial. I'm not usually anxious. Only around kids.
Are you able to direct me to any therapists in the Minneapolis area? None advertise as working with this particular phobia. I'm afraid they'll think I'm just a terrible human being for having the phobia, unless they understand it. I've been avoiding people with children my whole life, to avoid the reaction I'd get if they find out. I've spent my whole life rescuing animals to prove I'm not hateful or sociopathic...but no one will believe me if they hear I fear children. Any referrals, would be most appreciated.
No...most of the therapists have photos of people hugging children, laying on the ground with children, and they offer all sorts of post partum counseling... they will think I'm awful. I'll look at the different listings though, thank you so much.