Hello, I'd like to help you with your question.
It can be difficult to cope with a teenager without a diagnosis. But when you add
ADHD and ODD, you are struggling just to maintain a normal life for your child.
With the combination of diagnoses your son has, it can be very difficult to tell what is just normal teen acting out and what behavior is being caused by the ADHD and ODD. Here are some resource that can help:
Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach by Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley
Stop Negotiating With Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting Your Angry, Manipulative, Moody, or Depressed Adolescent... by Janet Sasson Edgette
Support for you-
Along with support and other resources, you may want to consider therapy for you and/or the family. Coping with a child who struggles with a disorder can pull all the energy away from the family and you and onto the one child. There is no time for yourself and no time to do the things you need or want to do. You can end up with caregiver stress
which sometimes leads to depression, anxiety
, trouble sleeping
and other symptoms. By focusing on yourself through therapy, you can regain some of your strength and be able to be there for your son.
I hope this has helped you,