Hello- Thank you for asking the question. I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals, couples and families & am happy to reply.
I am sorry to hear about this......
If your partner has a personality of character disorder- they can be very difficult to treat as the person lacks the capacity for insight and thus is not in touch with how the feel or how their behavior effects others. They lack a conscience and if this is absent, the likelihood for lasting change is poor.
I am attaching a link that has detail on the most common Types of Personality Disorders and the behavioral manifestations. Educating yourself will help you make a decision on whether or not to work on this relationship or move forward.
Usually, when someone asks the question, they already know the answer. Meaning you may know in your head that know you gut that this is not working but you need validation. Trust your gut.
Here is the link and also a short quiz that measures whether someone has a psychopathic personality style :
Answer the following quiz as if you were answering for your partner or how you see your partner and you will get an immediate result as to whether traits are present and to what degree:
Feel free to respond if you have further questions, I am happy to help.
Kindest regards, Bill
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