Looking for female therapist to work with relationship issues: NOT ELLIOT: please respond
FOR KATE: Thank you. I need someone to witness my feelings and help me move on as i try and let go of a 5 year complicated long distance relationship/marriage. I have no one to talk to about it as I dont want to tell anyone its over yet(my grown children, my high profile job etc) but one pays a price for hiding their true feelings and when I begin to deal with my feelings on my own, I am just a big puddle of tears and pain and unable to do anything. Are you available to "walk with me" through this?
For Kate: Yes, I understand. I have an unlimited membership so I can ask unlimited questions. Please explain to me,though, how I compensate your answers as well as ask new questions at the same time? Do I compensate and then start over and say For Kate? Like now, there are no smiley faces attatched to this! Please advise
For Kate: I still dont see the smiley faces to rate you but whenever you set that up, I wlll rate and write a new question. Yes, I am in the middle of this 5 year relationship that is so complicated. He lives overseas and we married last year, hoping to immigrate him by now. We bought a house together that I live in waiting for him to get here to the US. But now I think he is cheating-he swears he isnt but there is no real way to know. Anyway, now I dont want to immigrate him because I am afraid. I am stuck in this house full of our memories. I want to move but cant afford it. How do I make my peace with staying in this house as we work this out? I am so afraid here. Am I right in ending this? And then in the bigger picture, how do I keep from picking the type of man who is incapable of maintaining a long term committment?
For Kate: I just cry everywhere I look because this house is full of our memories and full of our dreams for retirement together(I am late fifties)-I cant be in our bed alone without crying so I sleep on the couch. He is shy and somewhat feminine by American standards. When we have travelled overseas before I have noticed him noticing younger men. It is against his religion to be gay so I am concerned he has secret male relationship/s-I know how his voice sounds after he ejaculates and sometimes when we talk on the phone his voice sounds that way when he said he had to work late. I have made it clear I will not be with someone who is not loyal.I wont be anyones beard. What to do? How do I know for sure-he is 6500 miles away?