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How do I get over somone I've been dating for 6 years? and in my situation how long do you think it would take and what do you suggest doing? I just broke up with my boyfriend, I'm 19 and hes 18. We broke up because we argued all the time, he's a mommy's boy as well, and she never liked me. We never got a long, she told me that whoever walked into his life, she would never accept it. I told him it wasn't fair for her to treat me like that, he said it was his mom so she had the righ. I told him he was wrong, shes always getting into our relationship, if I greet her she gives me dirty looks, she would get mad when my now ex would hug me, hold my hand, or show any affection. I told him i couldnt take this anymore, dragging his mom with us in our relationship and always getting into it, and also he would tell his mom things that should have styed in our relationship, I feel like he had no righ to do that because it was also my concern. I know shes jelouse. Hes also lied a lot to me, never cheated but flirted, hide things from me. Therefor I don't trust him at all thats another thing why we argue because im always quetioning him and he hates that. He says to don't question him and try to tell him what he can and can't do. Weve talked about marriage believe it or not. Hes proposed but I deniyed it. Hes told me that one day he'll come looking for me again (I'm moving to texas by the way)..I ask myself why come back looking for me? If hes doing all these things now. If he knows hes going to look for me why is he trying so hard to move on?? I just don't want to be a plan B if plan A doesn't work. It's been 2 days since our break up and hes going out clubbinh, talking to a lot of girls, video chatting and trying to take them out to lunch. In fact he told one of the girls that he was talking to that hes been single for a month which has only been 2 days. I feel like hes moving on so fast, he told me he was doing that becuase otherwise he'll come looking for me. I, on the other hand feel like I'm dying, I dont want to eat, I'm always anxiouse, scared, sad. I feel like crying all the time. I don't get any sleep, I don't eat, I don't feel like doing anything I just feel like staying in my room. Another big problem is I have his yahoo password XXXXX I'm constantly chking his messages who hes talking to, at the end I regret it because I feel 100 time worse but I just can't help it. I feel like I get mini heart attacks before I check his stuff. what do you suggets I should do?
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yeah, I understand our relationshionship, it has always had problems. He told me that one day he was going to look for me again, I'm going to try my best to move on, what if I suceed and he comes back looking for me after so long, and my feelings come back, what do you suggest for me to do? About the e-mails, messages You suggest keeping away from absolutely everything that has to do with him, including pictures etc..? Do you suggest talking to him and asking if he could please change his passwords, because otherwise I feel like I'm always going to be checking on him. Another thing, what do you thing is the best thing for me to do so I can move on and feel better about myself since I don't even want to get out of bed..I would really want to know about how long would you think it would take for me to at least start to not feel like I'm always dying..Also, I'm going to move to texas do you think moving away will help? I'm going to have to see him for this thing that we have to go to, how do you suggest I act around him? becuase I feel like I'm going to want to be crying and throwing everyhting that I found out hes doing on the plate.
okay, The next time I see him, how should I act around him. Should I show my true feelings or act as if I don't care. Today, I got ready and went to the store with my mom. Sill couldn't take him off my mind, all I wanted was to go home. For some reason it's even hard for me to literaly talk. My mom kept on asking me questions. all I did was nod my head.
okay, I've already asked him to change his passwords. The thing is that now hes calling me to see If I'm okay, how I'm feeling. Yesterday he told me that he loved me. After the phone call I felt better but then again thinking about everything hes doing just makes me want to forget him. I know I have to see him a few more times since we have to go to the event.