Hello Kate McCoy I have a problem of negative muttering of bad words. I have had this problem since about a year and a half later after the night supervisor arrived. I believe he is the primary reason for this. Hearing him swear every night and to himself working in the aisle. Hearing him run down the other workers and also hearing him verbally abuse me to other co workers. He also has said to me that if the job was done properly, I would not have to be this long working in the aisle. When I asked him what am I not doing properly, he could not answer me. I also suffered from verbal abuse back on days being blamed for an egg accident that wasn't my fault. Hearing people call me names as they walk by or behind my back. I did not know them and they did not know me. I am afraid this negative muttering has carried on outside of the workplace. An example, as I was leaving the bank I heard a lady say he just called you a bad name. There are many times I am left thinking did I just say that? I do not want the person near me to think I am referring to him or her. A former co worker told me to eliminate negative muttering, try to think about good things instead of bad. Just try to always think of happy thoughts. For me it would be a pleasant aroma. I find I am pressing my lips hard around people, either inside or outside of workplace as I am afraid I will say one or two bad words and I do not want the person near me to think I am referring to him or her. I do not want to be left thinking did I just say that? One lady told me that the reason I have this negative muttering of bad words is because I am anxious I am going to make a mistake. I need to stop these anxious negative thoughts that I am having. Are there any books Kate you can recommend to me that will stop me from having these anxious negative thoughts and will also stop me from this negative muttering of bad words. I now live in a new city and I am afraid of having a bad image because of this negative talk of one or two bad swear words.
Would these books help me to stop having anxious negative thoughts and to stop negative muttering?
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Conscious calm Laura Maciuika
Thank you for your help.
Thank you Kate for your book recommendations and the several anxiety resources to further look into this problem. One other lady I emailed from her own site said to help prevent negative muttering and to help prevent anxious thoughts, I need to work on three areas. Hypnosis, self esteem and confidence. She said the reason I am having negative muttering is that I am anxious I will make a mistake.
Do you feel that hypnosis can help me in addition to the books you provided or just try the books first and if I need more help then to go try hpnosis? If hypnosis is also worth a try, which hypnosis CDs would you recommend to prevent anxious negative thoughts and to prevent negative muttering?
It is always good to talk to you Kate. I miss you.