I realize all that you have said. I just don't understand the relentless abusive accusations and his refusal to try to believe me. I am trying to understand if this will ever resolve or if he has other issues that I am not seeing. He is very abusive with his accusations. He always blames everyone else for his shortcomings and he has a super inflated sense of self and sense of what people owe him.
He did not tell me anything that was not obvious. I was looking for more insight. I already knew these things and I am not educated in psychology but am a pharmacist.
Why would his response be so vehemently adverse. What would make him interpret my behavior as sexual in nature? Why does this recycle every 6-8 weeks. Why does he blame me for all the fights even when he has been caught in the impropriety? When I am doing everything possible to love and help this person, what makes him love me to the moon and back one second and then the very next want to discard our relationship? Why the verbal abuse? Nothing is ever his fault. I have helped him get on his feet, pay his bills, take care of his children, etc. He is an educated man - a Physician, so what gives?