Hello Doctor, I have been seeing my girlfriend for 18 months, over that time we had a wonderful relationship with the exception of blips where my girlfriend would falsely accuse me of things, such as staring at women on tv, newspapers,supermarkets, on the street while driving, she would accuse me of walking slowly so that women could catch up with us, etc, etc. I wasn't and have never given her reason to think this, my previous relationship was 18 years and ended well. My girlfriend has banned newspapers (I read the Mail and internet and tv are with her supervision. She has also obsessed with my soon to be ex wife and whether i will get back with her, even though she has worked overseas since we split, I bought her out of the house and started divorce proceedings. My girlfriend however was in an abusive relationship some years ago, then she had a bad experiance on a plane that has affected her so that she has panic attacks on transport and crowds. She is currently on anti depressents and has had CBT for the panic attacks. I kept believing that she could change but she is getting worse. Is there anything that can be done to help her?
The jealousy/insecurity/controlling behavior please.
My concern is that as she has already undergone CBT for the panic attacks, where she had gone from gone beyond a fact based fear to imagination i.e. she took shoes out of her luggage to stop our ferry to France from sinking. That has only partly worked as she still can't get on a train or a plane, so is a self help book going to work. Sould it be straight to a therapist?